About a year ago I fell out with a friend. TBH she had done/said lots of things that weren't very friend-like, but the final straw was when I refused to take her daughter somewhere, and she turned up at my house ranting and raving at me. She said some awful things and tried to slap me round the face. I decided at that point that the friendship was over and done with, and that was that, and I told her so.
Our daughters are friends at school and I have obviously seen her several times at the school and at things like parties, but I am always polite, but I refuse to have anything to do with her. I have told a handful of close friends about what she did, but I don't bitch about her. In fact, she's just no longer on my radar really.
During the past year she's taken it upon herself to be-friend lots of people that I am friends with, including the women that I am close to, and who know about what she did. Of course, I don't expect anyone to take sides or anything like that.
However, now two of my close friends keep badgering me to 'be friends' with her again, saying things that life is too short to bear grudges (I don't bear a grudge, I just don't wish to have her in my life), and making excuses for her doing what she did (she's lonely/depressed/was having a hard time).
To be honest I am getting sick of it all. Like I said, I don't expect anyone to take sides but I do expect my friends to respect my views, respect my decision and to acknowledge that she did act badly. I don't see what they are going to achieve with their actions apart from pissing me off? I did mention to one of them that I am upset by how she keeps justifying things, and she tried to back pedal but it's actually put me off being good friends with her now.
How would you handle this situation?
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How to handle this friends situation?
tigerbread123 · 06/03/2014 15:03
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