My STBXH is seeing a woman with children, and he has told her our separation was amicable. I actually kicked him out because of emotional and physical abuse directed at our DCs and myself. He says it every time he visits the DCs (supervised contact only), talking about how "amicable" we are being, when actually it's just me walking on egg shells trying to get the visit over and done with, as I've had to make him leave early quite a few times due to aggressive and nasty behaviour.
He claims they have only been seeing each other for a few weeks (although I suspect it has been much longer), but that they are going to move in together. He hasn't even told his family the truth about why we separated, so they wouldn't be able to tell her.
I'm torn. He would know exactly who it came from (I know her name and could message her on FB). And honestly, if I told her and she disregarded it, I wouldn't be offended, as obviously it's her choice. But I would hate to see someone else get put through what we did.
Would you warn her? Or just stay out of it? I don't want to look like the jealous ex here, as the main reason I'm concerned is because she has a number of children, and it was our children that the most aggressive behaviour was aimed at. Then of course I'm worried about the obvious shit storm that will come down on me if he finds out I've told her. That will not be pretty.
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Would you warn her?
FinallyCanHearMyselfThink · 22/02/2014 15:54
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