I'm worried about his weight. He is nearly 20 stone. He is only 30.
He should be in the prime of his life but he has hip problems possibly arthritis due to they weight on them.
He was an amazing sports player in his early 20s but a sports Injury took him out the game for a few years and his weight shot up. While he was at the doctors about his hips the doctor told him his weight on his last visit and he was shocked at how much he had gained. The doctor told he he was obese and it hurt him.
He is now playing in local teams that are way below the standard or skill he has but his weight stops him from being active enough and he is often substituted. That hurts him too.
I went to go watch a match and the opposing team were calling him a 'fat cunt' and I got really upset and had too leave. He just said it was banter.
When he got home from the match I had a talk with him about trying to lose weight so he can play at the standard he is used to because he is so much better than that. I said I would diet with him too as I'd just had ds and was unhappy about my figure too. He is tall but his stomach sticks out like he is nine months pregnant.
I've talked to him about diabetics and strain on his heart but because he had a medical for his life insurance that give him a clean bill of health, he just laughs it off.
I worked hard to lose my baby weight, exercised but dh couldn't be arsed. He swears blind he eats like a bird at work and the food I could is healthy so he must be lying. His business partner has tried encouraging him to go to the gym with him but he doesn't keep it up.
He is such a handsome fella, a real beautiful face but the fact he dosnt care about his health and not even trying is really turning me off. He has noticed this and often says in bed that I don't fancy him anymore - which I always say I do.
I spoke to him this morning about maybe cutting wheat out as I noticed a dramatic difference when I did. He said ok. Then when his dad called in this morning, I was making FIL some toast and dh just walked past and took a piece. I might as well be talking Hebrew .
I'm at a loss what to do, I don't want to see my dh carry on turning in to an unhealthy man. I don't want him to have heart problem and myself and ds lose him, as heart problem are in his family. I want him to be able to run around with ds. Dh can't really do running at the moment.
I probably sound such a bitch. I've suggested, nagged, encouraged and cajoled . Don't know what else now.
Any suggestions? Please don't flame!
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Help me with dh weight problem
Cigarettesandsmirnoff · 19/02/2014 10:06
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