This may be long, I'm sorry....
Even married to dh for 15 years. We have 2 dc.
Lots of ups and downs. He is quite an unemotional person and his family do not talk about feelings.
In the past 6 months;
My beli ed dad died suddenly and unexpectedly and despite dh and I performing CPR we lost him.
Later that same day my mum had a heart attack.
I was dads executor and did everything. Funeral, everything. My mum and siblings were in no state to do anything.
I am trying to be there for my mum but it has become impossible for me to go 3 x per day as I have been.
my aunt has had a terminal cancer dx and has perhaps 2 weeks left to live. I went to see her yesterday and she didn't know I was there.
I had to have emergency gallbladder surgery in November and am still not right, in fact going to have an MRI on Friday.
My ds2 is off school ill - again! - and I am very worried about him. Took him to the gp this morning and he has tracheitis and conjunctivitis. He ended up in hospital with tracheitis last summer.
My question is this...
Wibu to text dh this morning and tell him I am struggling to cope.
He sent me a text back "just be strong"
But, I've been string since last July and I'm done.
I can't do this anymore.
Dh went back to work the day after dad died.
He had no time off after my op and indeed went on a business trip for 2 days 3 days after the op. Ds2 was sent him from school ill and I ended up caring for a dc with d and v 36 hours after major abdominal surgery.
He has let me down very badly in the past wrt the dc and them being ill.
When ds1 was a baby he was very ill and in and out of hospital - they thought he may have cerebral palsy at one point - and he didn't even tell work that dc was in hospital :(
I dont know why.
His family are really weird about illness and hospitals...as mil constantly tells me "we don't do medical things"
Because I love it so much, right??
I am feeling very upset, sad and angry.
He works fairly locally and has holiday he can book.
I just needed some emotional support today.
A hug, someone to lean on.
It's not going to happen is it?
I so want to tell mil that her PA comments on illness and medicine upset me but can't...it would be be that has a problem, not her.
Dhs answer to any problem is to "get his dad of come round"
Now, fil is a nice man, but I don't really want him when I am feeling low and vulnerable. And probably vice versa!
So...
Aibu?
What can I do, other than never expect dh to be there for me or offer emotional support? (I have already asked a friend to take me for the scan and to see the dr for results so that's sorted.)
His reply would be that he has to work and can't have time off - but a few weeks a go was talking about going away for 4 days with his friend!!
Here I am again today stuck at home with a poorly dc feeling dreadful and like I am a huge burden to him.
If feel utterly bereft.
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This should be in Aibu but I'm not feeling strong enough for that today...:(
Badvoc · 05/02/2014 11:46
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