DP and I are just going through the motion of joining households and all seems to be falling into place nicely. We get on really on, have worked through whatever issues have cropped up so far and DS has really taken to DP.
Firstly, let me say that this man will go through great lengths to ensure that we are well and happy. He's incredibly attentive, thoughtful and generous, not only in a material sense but with his time and effort.
Unfortunately, he's also partial to the odd 'white lie' to get himself out of trouble and doesn't always does things by the book. I am no 'goody-goody two shoes' but I do believe that certain things are non-negotiable. Well, I found out last night that his driving licence was revoked a while ago (no idea when or why) and that he got caught going over the speed limit after that so he is now being taken to court for the speeding offence as well as for driving without a valid licence. Obviously, I don't even dare to think what the situation is with his car insurance - which incidentally, I often drive myself having confirmed with him (and naively accepted his response as being true) that he had added me to his policy.
I don't even know where to start on this one. 1. How do you let things get to this stage?; 2. Is he keeping this hidden so as not to taint my opinion of him or what other reason could he have?; 3. whatever his reason may be, how do you put that above your obligation to act responsibly?; 4. is this man simply immature?
I am now starting to wonder whether he is really divorced... Not that it matters at this point but I don't want to have been told a lie. I've been introduced to the ex-wife so at the very least, they are definitely separated and have been for many years but where do the lies or secrets end? At which point do you decide that a relationship is simply too much hard work and walk away from it? Plus I have no way of confronting him about the licence without admitting to snooping, although the court papers were in a pile in the kitchen so hardly hidden.
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Is DP too much of a liability??
StellaBrillante · 29/01/2014 10:58
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