I love my dh a lot, but am disappointed in his fathering skills
I see other fathers that play sports with their children, cycle with them, want to take them places and do things with them. My dh doesn't want to do anything. He would sit and watch tv all day every day.
It seems all the time I have to be the one to suggest things we could do and he'll go along with that. I'm not at all sporty, not sure what I could do with dd. Tbh I think it's too late now, she's 12 and all she wants to do now is play with her friends and be on the pc. When she was younger I used to take her to museums.
I don't know how to ask him to do something without it turning into a row, he can't handle criticism at all. So I go along with how it is because I don't know how to change things.
I love him, but feel resentment sometimes. It's difficult right now as he's not working. He is trying to help around the home, can cook and put the washing machine on if I give him instructions, but doesn't see things like the carpet needs hoovering, the lawn needs mowing etc. He will Hoover if I ask him to but never mows.
He used to be fun to be with, but admittedly never sporty or very active.
Not wanting to moan, just looking for tips. Anyone been in similar situation, how did you deal/cope with it? Or do I just accept that he's like that?
I've suffered with depression in the past (and feel I'm struggling a bit now too tbh) so I'm probably not the most dynamic person around My get up and go went a while ago But I do try and have always tried to make sure we get out sometimes.
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DH not the father I thought he would be :(
MotherOfSoupDragon · 29/09/2013 20:12
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