Hi, newcomer, so apologies if I do something wrong.
Been with OH 20 years. Ups and downs but generally good. 7 months ago found he had lied about money he said he was saving but wasn't, he didn't seem to get why I was upset. Then 4 months ago found a credit card statement showing a debt he had been lying about also. Really felt at a loss, he didn't seem to understand why I was upset still. I felt he had lied my trust in him. Eventually came to a head 3 weeks ago, I explained how I felt he had lied and I was having trust issues because of that. He said do you want me to leave and in general was very aggressive/ defensive in response. It got to crisis point and we agreed to go to counselling. Had 2 sessions, and I was just starting to feel reassured that we could get through it. Tonight I found a text from a close friend of both of ours to him, obviously too intimate for normal conversation, can't stop thinking about you.
Asked him about it and he admitted that for 4 months or so they have been chatting Inappropriately, have kissed and he has told her he loves her. He wants space to think about what he wants to do.
I am so scared, so angry at both of them. The pain and panic I feel takes my breath away.
Will I be ok?
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00Bluebell00 · 23/07/2013 02:58
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