i have been living with "trust issues" in our marriage for 10 years, since my middle DS was a baby. Discovered DH had arranged to go out on a date with an old flame when she texted to say she "fancied the pants" off him. He has also signed up to dating websites, set up a secret email account and contacted a work contact on FB to tell her she looked gorgeous. She responded that she was "resisting the temptation" to see him again. He has history of emailing work colleagues flirtatiously. Over past year, he has become increasingly controlling and bullying, often reducing me to tears. At Xmas he announced he was about to get up to 12 points on driving licence and tried to persuade me to take 3 points for him. About 2 months ago I found we were heavily in debt, despite receiving an inheritance from my gran a year ago. He controlled finances and,although I could be more frugal, I believe he has issues with uncontrolled spending (obsessed with expensive watches). 2 weeks ago, having had 9 jobs in 11 years, he announced he had been sacked for obtaining receptionists mobile no. off database and sending personal texts. She also said he hangs around reception commenting on her looks and asking if she will miss him. Company may not give him a reference. To sum up, we are in a financial mess and because he has no job , may lose house. 3DS, aged 11, 9 and 5. We haven't had heating on for months, because I budgeted tightly to try to reduce debt, but now situation is hopeless. I have tried to leave him, but miss and love him. He is distraught and says he wants his family back. My heart is breaking. Can my marriage be saved?
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