I've kissed someone else. Not my husband. Someone else's husband.
Dh and I have been having a difficult time lately. I moved out for a while last month because he was violent to me (the first and last time i might add) but went back to try and make things work. He was devastated when I said I was leaving for a bit. If I'm honest I haven't really felt the same about him since he was violent but I desperately want it to work. I just don't feel the same as I used to.
I have never really fancied him. Now I write this I know that it is a problem. Stupidly I thought marrying someone you liked was more important and I thought maybe the physical stuff would come. We do have sex and it's fine but I just don't feel attracted to him.
He is a good person and a good father and on paper we have a great life. He pulls his weight at home, does over and above with dd and is generally considered to be a good bloke.
Stupidly I kissed someone else this week. (both drunk, no excuse though) He has since revealed he has liked me for a long time and wants to see me again. I want to but I know I can't. I can't stop thinking about him though. This has highlighted that I can't be that happy with dh if I can go kissing someone else. It is so disrespectful of me and a horrible thing to do.
Sorry for the ramble.
I have to tell the other guy I can't see him again.
But I don't think I can continue with dh. How do I know if it's right to leave? Is there any hope I can make it work?
BTW I know I'm a bitch for kissing someone else's husband. I can't believe I have done it. How do I get out of this all now?
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Oh fuck. What have I done?
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