I've posted before but don't know how to link. Have been married for 13 yrs but unhappy for 2. Nothing majorly wrong just unhappy. Fallen out of love with my OH. Over the last few months I've been in contact with an old boyfriend. The one that got away. Call me blinkered but its as tho we were never apart. We haven't yet met up as he lives abroad. (With kids but divorced). I have now decided I want to see him and that enough with the EA but also enough lying. I won't see him whilst still with my OH. I have this week been talking about separating, spare rooms, moving out, etc. my OH is desperate to not have a broken family and to stay with me. He says he will live in a sexless marriage if it means we don't cause the heartbreak of divorce for the kids. He can't understand why I want to split up given that we still get on in general and hold the same views/ideals on life. I guess the real reason for me, other than falling out of love and being bored is the OM. And I know I am a fool but that is my stupid decision. I am trying to make one sensible decision by separating before making it a physical relationship. Should I be honest with OH and say I have feelings for someone else? I don't want to cause more hurt than necessary but he just doesn't understand why I am doing this and I can see why not. I am so confused about how to handle this. I know it's wrong and I know nothing may happen with the OM but I am prepared to take that chance. I just want to take it in the most appropriate way....ie not when I am still married. We have spent so long on email and FaceTime I'm pretty sure of both our feelings. And well aware that if my OH saw those messages he may well already consider it an affair. However, we both have kids in foreign countries therefore have no permanent future together for the next 10 yrs at least. But I am still prepared to be with him in a long distance relationship. I know I'm crazy. I am very emotional right now and can't think straight. If you are still reading, thank you.
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