I posted in the summer about my LDR here
Not sure if anyone remembers but I had some good advice which I appreciated.
Well, it finally ended today...partly at my instigation, more as a result of my forcing a discussion which could really only end one way, which it did. It's a definite end, there will be no curtain calls.
I've never had to actively end a relationship where we both still loved each other. Does that make sense? We kind of both ended it but really only because I insisted on a discussion today...although things didn't change over a number of months (in other words it didn't get any better but it didn't get any worse) in the last few weeks he was getting more distant and I felt I was having to survive on fewer and fewer crumbs. It couldn't go on that way.
I know it's for the best, I know it had to happen but I feel utterly utterly shit. I've had breakups before and I didn't die as a result, I need to keep reminding myself that I probably won't die this time either.
And I know in comparison to what lots of women have been through/are going through this is nothing. I've been through a marriage breakdown caused by an affair myself so I know. I just can't help wondering why life has to be so shit sometimes? And how to get through the shitness. How to get up tomorrow knowing I won't see him or speak to him again. I don't know how to do that.
Sorry if this is a bit incoherent.
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Long distance relationship finally over
Shinyshinyface · 04/11/2012 20:29
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