Hi everyone. I am new to this website so apologies if I'm posting this in the wrong section.
Just wondering if there are any mums and dads here who lost one or both parents either to death or for other reasons.
I lost my dad when I was 14 which had quite a big impact on my life but my mum did all she can to ensure I didn't suffer emotionally, financially etc. I got married 12 years ago and my husband has always been reluctant to having kids. Initially I wasn't sure if I wanted kids but as the years went by my biological clock was really ticking and I was desperate for a child, not only to overcome the loneliness I left (hubby and I are both from another country) but also to grant mum her only wish of seeing my own kids. Eventlly, 8 years later my husband finally agreed to and we started trying but it took us a long time to conceive. During that time, my mum fell ill and died, the same day I found out I was pregnant. Having a child whilst grieving was the hardest thing I had to go through and although time heels as they say, I still think of my mum every day and feel terribly sad that she didn't get to see my son and that he will never meet her. We don't have any family where we live and the few friends I have all have at least one parent alive. Although they are lovely, sometimes they tend to ignore this fact and get carried away talking about their parents babysitting for them or the way they spoil their kids with presents etc (hubby and I never had a single night to ourselves since 2010). I'm fearing this would negatively impact my son as he grows up and realises he doesn't have grandparents (hubby has his mum but she lives abroad and never visits). My heart aches everytime I see grandmas and grandpas with their kids in the park, playgroups or reading to them in the library.
I would love to hear from parents in a similar situation. How do you cope with this challenge, how did you answer your children's questions about their grandparents. Thank you
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Adeona · 25/10/2012 16:09
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