My sister is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend who is the Father of their child. He has 2 children from a previous marriage.
The house is his, he bought it before they got together, however, she has lived in it with him for 7 years and paid equally for 5. The past 2 he has paid more because she had baby and was then on maternity leave, however, she buys all shopping, looks after the house, arranges trips out with the children and does all the cooking etc. It didnt used to matter to much to her, but only because she never thought about it before...but she now feels entitled to be equal in every aspect of the relationship and would like to have her name on the deeds to the house.
She has asked him but he went completely ballisitic at her and said that she was planning on leaving him. She has of course said shes not and tried to explain why it was important, but he wasnt having it, he thinks its all some big conspiracy. The way i see it is that its really disrespectful of him to feel like this about her and not think that she is worth the same. He thinks that because he is the one going and working, that he shouldnt have to share. He also mentioned to her that it wasnt fair because he put 20,000 deposit down to which she replied that she didnt mind agreeing that he could keep that if anything happened. He also thinks that because they have a baby together that is all the commitment they need because if anything happened it would all go to her anyway, but I dont think this is necessarily true.
I think he is being an ass about it and my sister is so upset with him that she really is starting to leave him. How can she put it to him that it is important, and why without him getting defensive. Can someone tell me all really valid reasons why it is important in a way that wont get his back up. Legal information would be helpful. All I know is that when I had to leave my ex, we werent married, we had 2 children and I was entitled to diddly squat and literally had to start again whilst he lived it up...I would hate for her to have to go through the same if anything happened.
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when couples arent married, why should the house be in both of their names...
woahthere · 24/10/2012 14:40
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