Hi All sorry if i babale but am so confused at the moment and am not really sure what to think. To cut a long story short over a year ago i came out of an abusive relationship and a few months after met a lovely new man we have dated just seeing each other at weekends as we live an hour appart he has work there and i have babies here. Although it has been hard just seeing each other part time we really fell in love hes fab with the kids and we also do music together with his group every other weekend.
Anyways things have been mostly fine other than i want to move in together and he feels its to early as he would like to move to a half way point rather than move here he has been hurt so have i so part of me feels its good to have time together and appart as i still get time to be alone and i think i am still adjusting to living without my ex i get so lonley and want my new man hee but also know i need to learn to be alone again after the break up of my long term relationship
Anways me and my boyfriend have always got on well and share a mutual love and respect just over a month ago he randomly asked me to marry him and i said yes it wanst planned so there was no ring or anything so i just put on one he got me for my birthday and both of us were really exited. Anyways for the first week or so i was pretty chilled about it all as am not the tryoe to go for big drama and then when i started researching venurs etc i got all frantic trying to get something booked venue wise quick as we said we would do it within a year my idea. Basicly we have rowed terribly since he said he felt i was going crazy going at it so fast and just wanted to enjoy being engaged before planning a wedding imediatly. I just thought i was doing the right thing and that he would share my exitment. Anywasy we have rowed so much since getting engaged that i callled it off then wanted it back dont know what to do now he says he loves me still but how can we get married when we have been rowing so much and needs to think he said we could still be engaged but if hes having doubts whats the point. I know he does still love me and praps just wants a longer engagement to enjoy before all the pressure of planning a wedding. But it seems to have gone so wrong we cant talk he does not want to talk about weddings till we get back to normal and i cant seem to drop the subject as i so wanted to get married HELPPPPPPPPPP
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Called off engagement am i over reacting
krissydw1 · 09/07/2012 20:30
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