I tried to access my account but his opened instead - I think because he hadnt logged out previously.
Of course I had a bit of a snoop, rightly or wrongly. You see we have never been friends on facebook. He wont add me and has always said "we live together so dont need to be mates on there too". Fair point. However I have always been a bit suspicious as he denied even having an account for well over a year and had to come clean a few months ago as he slipped up and mentioned something he saw on facebook.
Anyway, he has sent messages to random women on there, telling them how beautiful they are, nice pic, send me your number etc.
These women are all scantily clad and obviously the type that love posting pics of themselves wearing very little and posing in a sexy way.
My boy is 8mths old and we have only had sex once since I gave birth. I have not been in the mood, dont feel all that attractive and he to be honest is not doing it for me right now. He makes no effort at all.
I feel really hurt by him & humiliated. Is it harmless flirting or should I be worried?
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Should I be worried that OH is sending messages on FB to random women?
vanillaskinnylatte · 18/10/2011 17:03
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I reckon I will leave his account open, so he knows I have seen it. Im sure he will blame me for snooping but I dont care what he says. He clearly has something to hide and he has deleted the majority of messages as he only has them from yesterday. He does the same with his mobile too. No history whatsoever is kept.
I guess I've known deep down for a while but Ive been hoping that things might get better or he might change. I thought the baby might knock him into shape. No such luck... 
He is pretending, to all these scantily clad women, that you and your child do not exist.
He is wanking his ego, if nothing else. And to be honest, I'd be concerned it was more than his ego and more than a wank.
Not good OP. 
You're going to have to talk to him about it. And he will probably maintain it's his workmates logging onto his account as a joke or something.
I confronted him. He immediately threw a massive strop, shouting at me and saying I shouldnt be looking at his stuff and that the girls are from work (not true).
He has stormed out without saying anything else.
Oh vanilla
You were right to confront him, you know. And him storming out is a huge admission of guilt, imo. He'll be trying to think of a way to wriggle out of it.
How do you feel about the relationship in general?
yes, him walking out without really talking to me and answering the question shows me that he has been up to no good
i love him but i havent felt good for a long time. i had some strange girl texting him just after I had the baby. he managed to make some excuse then but i became suspicious again when he ran up a huge phone bill. he then couldnt explain who he had been texting/calling to get this £500 bill. I rang one of the numbers and it was a female and she said she had known him for years etc. She said they were going to go public, which I knew was a lie as I know his family really well. She was exaggerating but clearly there must have been something going on...at least flirty behaviour/messages.
the more I say here, the more I realise how bad it really is...
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