Dh wants to try again for another baby. I have to have IVF to get pregnant. We tried after ds a couple of times and I feel we gave it a go, it didn't happen and I am grateful to have the child I thought I might never have.
He has openly said I didn't try hard enough and gave up on the IVF too soon. I think it's easy for him to say this as it wasn't him traipsing to the clinic daily and pumping himself full of drugs or having all those unpleasant procedures.
His resentment of this is seeping into other areas of our relationship. He has called me a waster and lazy (admittedly mid argument) and I think he doesn't respect me for this.
We have tried counselling and it's not his thing.
I now face either trying again via IVF (we can have a frozen embryo cycle so it's not quite so overwhelming but the thought still fills me with dread) and me potentially resenting him or not trying and him resenting me forever.
Our relationship isn't great in other ways and I don't know whether I can take doing it all again when he isn't very supportive in my view when I'm going through treatment plus if I got pg I'd feel fat and vulnerable due to already feeling invisible to him.
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DH wants another baby, I probably don't and it's causing resentment - fertility issues too
hesaysyayisaynay · 10/10/2011 13:35
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