was going to namechange for this, but then thought, hey, if friend recognises this, then maybe it will save me a difficult conversation!!!
I am not a particularly needy friend for the most part - tho, as we all do, occasionally need a bit of support. Took my DS to uni yesterday... thought I was well prepared but actually found it very hard - not so much because he is living away, more because it's the end of an era, and our family life will never be quite the same again. Friend messaged me to ask how I was doing - and after first sentence, it was all about how hard she was going to find it when her children go to uni. I mean all about, nothing else about our DS. Her eldest won't be going for at least 5 years!!! Ok, yes, I appreciate it's hard for her to think about that - but even though it made her fret about her own fledging the nest, she had absolutely no real interest in how I'm doing at all.Pointed out that her separation was in the future, mine was right now - and it was "yeah, I know, but I still can't imagine what it's going to be like, it;s hard etc etc etc"...so found ,myself consoling her, about something which will happen years ahead (if indeed it does happen).... which is fine, she deserves friendship too, but I kind of feel for once, it could have been about me. Not asking MN any questions or for a response, but am actually quite angry about it and it's festering... so just thought if I wrote it down here, would help me either forget about it, or if I decide to discuss with her, maybe I'll have the anger out of my system!!
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always has to be about HER.....
lilolilmanchester · 18/09/2011 21:13
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