My partner and his three children (gulp!) will be moving in with my son and I in about six weeks. Before we got together, I was considering getting a lodger(s) for my spare rooms to supplement income, but held off with this plan as the relationship developed - so that he could stay over lots, often with his kids, and we could see how the relationship developed.
We're now at a stage when living together seems like a natural progression, for all of us. So, my three main questions are:
(1) What should my partner pay in terms of rent/contribution towards bills? If I were to have lodgers, my two spare rooms (which his children will occupy) would together let out for at least £600 around here, for rent plus bills (not including food). I need this supplemental income - but I'm wondering if it's unfair to charge my partner this amount if he's, well, my partner ... but equally, I can't subsidise a family of four to my own detriment! Should he just pay half of all bills for the sake of fairness?
(2) What kind of agreement should we draw up to formalise the arrangement? I'm aware of lodger agreements and living together agreements - but is there anything else that would be more suitable? It's my property, and I want to make sure it remains only mine (i.e. he doesn't end up owning some of it by virtue of living here/paying towards the mortgage).
(3) And is there anything really key, on a practical level, that I need to bear in mind? We're thinking there'll be a need for house rules, allocated chores, routine, meal planning, the kids doing their share round the house (especially as they get older), making time for each other, etc. But are we missing anything else obvious?
Incidentally, his children would be here about half the time, and between us, there'd be four children in the house aged between 2 and 8. We all get along, my son's fond of my partner and his kids like me, and the kids - although they squabble sometimes - get along well. It's not perfect/ideal, but - at least at the moment - it's about as workable as we could hope it to be for this kind of set-up.
Many thanks for any advice.
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Partner moving in with his three children - what should he pay towards rent/bills, and anything else we need to think about?
GiveUsThisDayOurDailyEggs · 23/08/2011 10:15
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