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Would you let your DH/DP take "sexy" pictures of you or film you for his personal pleasure?

(39 Posts)
NotEnoughTime Sat 13-Aug-11 15:40:42

My friend and I were talking about this last night.

I wouldn't be able to let my husband as I look crap naked dont have the self confidence!

Her husband has asked her could he take some pictures of her and/or a video. She is not sure. She has been married to him for over 20 years so she isnt worried that he will pass the pictures/film around.

Do you think she should do it and if yes have you got any tips?

Have any of you done this and been pleased with the outcome or regretted it?

Cheaptrick Sat 13-Aug-11 15:45:40

I once got a new swimsuit that didn't cover everything and i took a photo and txt it to my DH when he was in work - it was the best weekend of sex we ever had blush

If its your DH and you trust him then i dont see why not. But you need to talk about what he likes and what you are willing to do and feel comfortable with it.

squeakytoy Sat 13-Aug-11 15:45:48

I suppose it is all dependent on trust. I know my husband would not show anyone else, and he knows I wouldnt, if we were to do this.

If she isnt worried, and she is happy to do it, then she should go for it.

I dont think I could bear to see my wobbly bits on screen!! grin

TheFlyingOnion Sat 13-Aug-11 15:53:30

I would definitely be ok with this.

I wouldn't be with anyone I didn't trust, so thinking they were going to show them around wouldn't be an issue.

Your DP wants to take photos/video because he thinks you're gorgeous - that's enough to boost my ego to do it!! grin

Lifeissweet Sat 13-Aug-11 15:55:06

Really can't think why he'd want to, but as long as I never had to see it, it would be ok with me. I trust him not to show anyone.

Malificence Sat 13-Aug-11 15:59:15

I wish mobiles with cameras / internet / webcams had been around when DH was in the Air force 20 years ago. wink I had a fabulous body at 25 <sigh> He had to make do with some pics of me in a bikini and a pair of my knickers.

It isn't just a matter of trusting your DH not to show his friends though. DH had some pictures of our ds' birth that I wouldn't want shared with anyone else (think head emerging, tearing etc) Thought they were safely stored on the computer. It wasn't until he thought someone had nicked his backup harddrive from his drawers at work that I realised that anyone could have seen them ( but luckily hadn't)!

TheFlyingOnion Sat 13-Aug-11 16:08:18

My ex was Army and took a couple of home videos off to Afghanistan with him. Kept him going for the whole tour grin blush

ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts Sat 13-Aug-11 16:19:23

A friend of my DH's borrowed Dh's phone and DH totally forgot what was on there. Said 'friend' consequently decided to be nosey, and then show his other mates. DH went mad and I was left very red faced indeed and see his friends on a regular basis.

blush blush

Ok the pics were pre children and I did look good grin but still. I've never been so embarrassed.

NotEnoughTime Sat 13-Aug-11 16:37:23

I have just rang my friend and told her what you have all said.

I think if she downs a large bottle of red first she is going to do it tonight!!! I didnt chat to her for long as she said she had lots of things to do ie waxing, plucking, exfoliating etc but I wished her loads of luck in her new career wink grin

lazarusb Sat 13-Aug-11 17:35:48

I'd make sure I'd sorted out some good lighting first grin but I'd be more than up for it!

ClaireDeLoon Sat 13-Aug-11 17:40:36

Was just discussing this with DP recently. Had a fanjo related op yesterday and they asked permission to video the business end of the op. I was telling DP this and he said plaintively 'but you never let me take pics of your fanjo'. Bless him.

I'm too worried pics might fall into wrong hands by mistake tbh.

coccyx Sat 13-Aug-11 17:42:53

no way.

babyhammock Sat 13-Aug-11 17:51:27

I'd say be very careful. When I first got with my ex he was always on about filming me etc. Thank goodness I always put him off. The relationship became very abusive and if he had anything like that of me, all my friends and family would have seen it as punishment for leaving him.

Its all about trust I suppose, but you can never be sure how things will pan out...

heleninahandcart Sat 13-Aug-11 18:20:33

Fine to go right ahead if your friend is happy to do so. But please make your friend aware that things can get mislaid or end up in the wrong hands by accident (e.g. stolen laptop) so to take care of where she stores the films.

AnyFucker Sat 13-Aug-11 18:25:39

Yes, have done this, but played it back the same day then deleted it

Same with any photos

The minute you start "storing" them, you take the risk of forgetting about them, losing them or otherwise falling into the wong hands

It can be fun for an evening, but I would always make sure all traces were destroyed (until the next time smile )

Migsy1 Sat 13-Aug-11 18:29:03

Never - you will regret it if you split up

supadupapupascupa Sat 13-Aug-11 18:31:05

Yes, have done and DH uses it. But I wouldn't have allowed it if we weren't married.

ChaoticAngeloftheUnderworld Sat 13-Aug-11 18:44:04

What would worry me was if we split up.

fgaaagh Sat 13-Aug-11 18:46:56

no i wouldn't

no trust issues, i've just seen quite a few cases where things have got mislaid / mixed up

DH left his personal laptop in an airport once (no password, we had to change all 4 bank account logins because he'd stored the passwords somewhere on them, casued quite a bit of worry) - it ended up getting handed in after someone saw him leave it, and they'd reported it to security. but a worrying period where he didn't know where it was.

i've also had my bag stolen (well, snipped - pickpocket snapped the handle whilst his partner bumped into me) when I was in london last year, complete with my mobile phone, all my cards, keys, everything - i wouldn't want a disk or a mobile with anything personal getting mixed up like that. i've also been burgled at our old house, about 5 years ago, where they took DH's work laptop and a few other bits and pieces (and loaded into OUR car hmm to steal that too).

i've accidently emailed a few things to the wrong person before. in fact that's happened more times than i care to remember! so i can't even trust myself not to share some bits and bobs!

FabbyChic Sat 13-Aug-11 18:52:52

In the circumstances of your friend no problem, in a new relationship no way, been there done that and too scary as to what can happen with them afterwards.

lazarusb Sat 13-Aug-11 19:01:05

It does concern me that we might up end dead earlier than we expect and a family member comes across the toy, photos etc....grin Mind you, it would be funny if it was MIL!

bestfootforwards Sat 13-Aug-11 19:09:43

A couple of years ago I was back at my parents and my dad offered to show me the pictures from their skiing holiday, unfortunately he had forgotten that amongst them were some pictures he had taken of my mum in her underwear. Was a bit of an awkward moment shock

bestfootforwards Sat 13-Aug-11 19:09:43

A couple of years ago I was back at my parents and my dad offered to show me the pictures from their skiing holiday, unfortunately he had forgotten that amongst them were some pictures he had taken of my mum in her underwear. Was a bit of an awkward moment shock

AnyFucker Sat 13-Aug-11 19:16:55

omg, grin

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