Just before the end of last term in nursery, my DD would become very upset at the mention of starting school. She has a place at the infants school attached to the nursery and her new teacher often visited the nursery to spend time with the children who would be starting in her new class. The new class teacher is lovely.
When my daughter was due to attend an afternoon session in her new class at the end of last term, she would cry every time it was mentioned and was inconsolable on the day in the run up to it. The reason she gives for not wanting to start school is that she says it is too noisy and the teachers will use a tambourine, just like they did in nursery. DD never mentioned it being too noisy during her time in nursery. DD does not have any sensory issues.
DD was also starting to say nursery was boring during the last half term and that she wanted to stay at home. Every time I mention buying her new uniform, she gets very upset and repeatedly says that she doesn't want to go to school.
The majority of the children from nursery are going to her school, and one of her best friends is in her new class. But she says she's not bothered if she doesn't get to play with them as she would rather stay at home. I just wanted some advice as to whether this is usual behaviour for some children, or should I be concerned?
DD is an only child and I have been a SAHM since she was born. Homeschooling was an option I considered but didn't pursue as DD was starting to become very clingy and I was concerned that, as an only child, she would miss out on socialising with other children. She actually settled into nursery a lot quicker than I anticipated and her confidence has really improved. However, she was starting to get clingy again at morning drop off, during her last term at nursery. If we still lived in the area, I would have loved to have sent DD to Dolphin School in Hurst as I feel it has a more relaxed and nurturing environment but, as far as I am aware, a similar school does not exist here in the West Midlands. DD's school, even in nursery, has a reputation of being strict and I don't know whether this is part of the issue, and that she just isn't able to articulate this.
I visited many state and independent schools in the area before applying for a nursery place, but never found a school that felt just right and accepted that I would have to send DD to a good enough school, which most of them were, including the school that she has a place at. But I think my daughter's reaction to starting school is making me question whether good enough is actually good enough.
Thank you for reading; any advice would be much appreciated.
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depp1020 · 17/08/2018 17:32
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