Hi all
Sorry if I'm being silly and over-thinking this one but I could do with some advice and perspective, really.
I'm 3 months pregnant with DC2, and so far have avoided seeing quite a lot of my friends since I found out I'm pg as I'm showing and don't want anyone to know until I've had my 12 week scan next week.
I'm going to a wedding in a few weeks' time and by then it'll be very obvious (not least because I won't be drinking) that I'm pregnant.
DH and I have good friends who have been TTC for 3 years - they starting trying at the same time we did for DS. I fell pregnant with DS immediately, and he's now 2. They are still TTC and having a nightmare with IVF. I've now fallen pregnant with number 2, really easily, and basically feel a bit guilty. I've been emailing my friends about other things but not mentioned I'm pregnant. When we see them at the wedding, they'll see that I am, and I'm worried they'll be upset, or hurt, or resentful.
Obviously, if they are, there's nothing I can do about that - I'd probably feel the same way in their situation because it does seem unfair that they're having such trouble and I fall pregnant at the drop of a hat.
The question is, should I say something in advance so I don't have to cause upset at a wedding? If I'm honest, I can't bear the thought of seeing them at the wedding because I'm scared of seeing their reaction. What do I do? Anything? Nothing? Tell them in advance so it's not a shock or just keep schtum and let them deal with it?
Or is it not an issue at all, and one I've just invented?! Perspectives welcome! Thanks.
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Poss being silly but how do I tell my friend (having trouble TTC) that I'm pregnant again?
Snowtiger · 21/09/2009 15:51
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