Hi all.
I am faced with an impossible decision, but would really appreciate your thoughts and opinions on this, especially from anyone with any experience of similar situations.
I found out I was pregnant on Saturday. I am on acne tablets called isotretinoin which mean that the chances of my baby being born with severe 'abnormalities' are quite high. Medical recommendation is to abort.
Some googling bought up the following:
'29 cases of "adverse reproductive outcomes among women taking isotretinoin during the first trimester of pregnancy" were reported. Of the 34 exposed women reported, 19 experienced spontaneous miscarriage, and 10 babies were born with congenital malformations now understood to be the fetal isotretinoin syndrome.'
'Children with the isotretinoin syndrome often demonstrate facial asymmetry; serious external ear abnormalities, including microtia (small ear), anotia (no ear), or stenosis of the external ear canal; micrognathia (small jaw); flat depressed nasal bridge; and ocular hypertelorism (widely spaced eyes). The cardiovascular abnormalities commonly seen include conotruncal malformations, such as transposition of the great vessels and tetralogy of Fallot.'
I don't even know what half of that means, but its doesn't sound pleasant, does it?
Now, I think I am about 5/6 weeks pregnant, and know the sensible thing to do is have a tablet induced abortion, think its not meant to be and carry on with life as I know it. Its what the doctor and my boyfriend think is best.
However, I have this really nagging doubt that I could be aborting a perfectly healthy baby. I was only on a low dose of the tablet for 2 weeks. Or, if indeed the baby is severely disabled, does that give me the right to end its life? Is it even a baby right now? Or just a mass of cells?
I am so undecided. I would like to know if the baby is indeed disabled, however, I don't know if even that knowledge would make me abort. I worry about making a decision either way and regretting it for the rest of my life. I know that an abortion at 6 weeks would be less dramatic for my body and mind than one at 12 weeks, say.
I'm not sure I could actually go in and have the abortion, if you see what I mean. Actually book a date and turn up and go through with it.
I'm also not sure if I am mentally strong enough to look after a baby with special needs and all that that entails.
It might just be hormones raging through me, but I just want to protect this little one inside me, not kill them. But is that me being romantic and reckless instead of sensible and responsible?
I am just so confused. Any help or advice or anything would be gratefully received.
Thanks,
Duke.
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Pregnant and being pressurised to abort for medical reasons - but my head says yes but my heart says no
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duke748 · 22/12/2008 13:56
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