This is positive right? 42 and freaking the f out.

[holym0ly]

For the past 10 days or so I've been feeling a bit off - pulling sensations in my pelvis, heightened sense of smell, bit of backache. I thought I was just being paranoid and was about to get my period but I POAS while telling myself off for being so dramatic and got this... It's positive right? Absolutely freaking out. Two kids already and really thought my baby days were over (which I was thrilled about TBH). Have I got the test wrong maybe? Or anyone else in this boat? I didn't think it was really even possible to get pregnant accidentally at my age... feel sick and shaky.

[Notverygrownup]

Sorry it's not what you want to hear but yes, that looks positive to me - 42 is well within the bounds of normal fertility.

Hope that you find some peace of mind with the decisions you are going to be making. Be kind to yourself - this is obviously a huge shock. You don't have to rush.

[Givemepickles]

I agree. That's definitely a positive. 42 is quite common for pregnancy these days. Good luck with whatever you decide x

[Sexnotgender]

That’s definitely positive. I had a baby last year at 39.

[Thered]

Me. 40 and 2 kids already. Found out at the weekend and felt pretty much the same as you. Just wanted to offer a handhold. Hope you have support in real life. Can you do another test for the confirmation just so you know? I am feeling bit better about it now and even cautiously a bit excited but still very mixed emotions compared to other 2 much longed for and wanted pregnancies. Wishing you all the very best in a tricky situation

[YukoandHiro]

Yes I can see the line... sit with the information for a few days and see how you feel. Don't rush into any decisions.

[Desmondo2021]

Definitely looks like a positive. I imagine you're in absolute panic right now but it's time for a deep breath, a cup of tea and just give your head a day or two to get around it.

Do you have anyone you can trust to share this with?

[Rno3gfr]

Sorry op, it looks like a definite positive for me. How old are your kids? You have options. Please remember that just because you’ve got kids already doesn’t mean you have to proceed if it’s going to be distressing for you. If you think this is something you want to continue with then prepare yourself with all the positives too, I’m sure there are many. Whatever you decide, take a deep breath, take a moment to think things over, talk to the people who you want to talk to- don’t involve people you don’t feel will be beneficial. Remember, everything will be ok. I don’t want to advise much more as I don’t know your fame of mind at this point.

[7catsisnotenough]

Sorry, maybe I'm misreading it but doesn't the test say pregnant is a double line and a single line is not pregnant? I'm only seeing a single line in each picture...?

[BrambleRoses]

There are two lines, @7catsisnotenough, one is faint but that usually means early stage of pregnancy.

[NoWordForFluffy]

How are you only seeing a single line, @7catsisnotenough? There's clearly 2 lines.

OP, as others have said, think about it for a bit and see what you want to do. There's no 'wrong' decision here, what you decide is what is right for you, whatever that is.

[7catsisnotenough]

Apologies, I've zoomed in and you're totally correct @BrambleRoses 😞 Apologies OP and good luck 💐

[ForsythiaInBloom]

Definitely pregnant. Congratulations.

I’ve been there. Two DCs already and the double line on a stick age 41. Freaked out a bit about my age and also because DH had previously said - very firmly - that two children was enough, so I thought he would be unenthusiastic (he was thrilled). I had a very easy pregnancy and DC3 is now in bed after a happy day running about at nursery.

[ForsythiaInBloom]

Sorry. Just seen you are conflicted about this. I didn’t mean to be insensitive.

[holym0ly]

Blown away by everyone's kindness - thank you for the hand holds and reassurance and total lack of judgment. @Thered I feel the same - I felt so lucky to have my two boys after a MC (at 35) and this just feels completely different. I'm completely overwhelmed. I'm so sorry to feel this way given how desperately so many people want to see these two lines but I never thought I'd see them again. While I was waiting for the test to work I was thinking 'when it comes back negative I think I'll ask DH to get the snip' so this is complete whiplash.

[ForsythiaInBloom]

Take your time to process the news and work out your feelings. Lots of support on here, whatever you decide. It took me about 48 hours even to tell DH. I felt very shocked, but ultimately decided I was happy. DH being thrilled also helped.

[beansprout55]

42 isn't bad at all darling!! Gosh, I'm pregnant now and in my group there's loads of women in their 40's! Much older than you too. Even my colleagues had their kids in their 40's, and my mum!
Understand why you're freaking out as it's a shock but 42 isn't old at all!xx

Hope you're ok and give yourself time to let it sink in, and congratulations!! Surprise additions are always the most fun 🤩 bet it will be a girl for your boys to look after xxx

[Oldtiredfedup]

Yup - that’s a positive.

You do what feels right for you.

Hugs

[TolkiensFallow]

Very positive

[LazyMareofEastown]

Hi holym0ly.

I'm 41 and was in your position exactly one week ago when I did a positive test. DP and I have been together for 4 years, have two DC apiece and neither of us want any more. He has dragged his feet on getting a vasectomy and admittedly we had become a bit complacent on the cycle tracking front.

I started the abortion process with medication at home this morning. Will take the second meds tomorrow and pass the pregnancy. I feel horrendous and have been crying so much. Even though it's the right choice for us and our existing DC, I can't help but wish things were different and we were ten years younger with a bigger house and more money and this news wouldn't have been so unwelcome.

Huge hugs to you. Feel free to PM me if you would like a chat.

[JugglingJanuary]

@NoWordForFluffy

How are you only seeing a single line, *@7catsisnotenough*? There's clearly 2 lines.

OP, as others have said, think about it for a bit and see what you want to do. There's no 'wrong' decision here, what you decide is what is right for you, whatever that is.

I never say anything on pregnancy or covid threads as I can't see the second line. I can see it on your photo but not the OP's not even if I zoom in or out).

[holym0ly]

@LazyMareofEastown - really thinking of you; I can't believe all that has happened in a week - you must feel completely blindsided. I know the 'right thing' is the thing that you end up doing but I feel like there's nothing but shitty options (even though I know I won't feel that way once life moves on one way or another). Just sending you hugs.

[holym0ly]

Just wanted to say thanks again to each of you for your kindness. I tested again today and it's 100% positive. I phoned the GP out of a general bewilderment about what to do next. He didn't help by saying 'oh! When I saw your DOB on the file I assumed it must be an IVF pregnancy!'... So still no idea but so grateful for the thoughtful replies.

[LazyMareofEastown]

Thank you holy.

Wishing you alll the very best whatever you decide to do 💐. It's a really shitty situation, I've felt every emotion known to womankind over the last week. Am all cried out and feel totally emotionally spent.

DP has an appt for vasectomy at the end of the month so I know now that this was the last time I would ever be pregnant and that is proving surprisingly difficult for me to accept and get past.

I love my life as it is. I have two amazing DC, a career that I love and a wonderful partner who I get lots of child-free time to do fun stuff with. A baby would have had a huge detrimental impact on all of those things and on everyone involved. I need to focus on that. Not easy as I'm laid on the sofa clutching my hot water bottle and feeling very sorry for myself but I'll get there.

Huge hugs to you 💜

[bunnypenny]

Hi holym0ly, I was in your position in April - age 42 with a (then) 11month old and a 2.5year old. My husband and I had thrown caution to the wind once after a few drinks and two weeks later, I had a BFP.

It took a few weeks/months to get my head round it and what it meant (on both a personal and career level), but I’m currently sitting looking at my lovely 4week old and I (now) have no regrets. Having three under 3 at age 43 was not in my life plan, but I’ve accepted it. If it’s what you want to do, you will get through it and you will cope. But you must do what’s right for you and your family and if a third child is not what you want or can imagine, it’s not an easy decision for you to make to have a termination but it’ll work out. Best of luck ❤️

[Nikkic2123]

I hope everything works out for you.
I lost my baby last year at age 41 would have been baby no 3 , turned 42 in December, I'm hopeful now after taking the time to read some of these comments x

I hope you're ok.