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Older mum to be !!!!

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J43mum · 16/01/2019 17:31

Hey I have just found out I’m 5 weeks pregnant , i have 2 children already , I’m a older mum too 43 😱 although I feel 23 sometimes lol just wondered if anyone else is out there who might be a slightly older mum to be and we can chat and compare etc ! X

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 16/01/2019 18:20

Not me but congratulations OP! There's sometimes a Mums over 40 thread in the Ante-natal club section

J43mum · 16/01/2019 18:33

Ahhhh thanks I’ll have a look ! Thanks

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Bella245 · 16/01/2019 19:41

I am soon to be 41, first baby due in June. I too don't feel 41, but my body disagrees at times :-)
Congratulations

Alicarmen · 16/01/2019 21:00

I’m 41 and nine weeks pregnant . Congratulations OP ! xxx

gambaspilpil · 16/01/2019 21:03

I had my number 4 just before I was 45! He is 4 now

J43mum · 16/01/2019 21:04

Ahhh hi ! June is t that far away , although I guess it feels it a ? How you feeling ? How has the hospital dealt with you being older ? X

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J43mum · 16/01/2019 21:05

Hi .... wow how did you deal with it ? I have loads of emotions one day and the next I’m like I can deal with this lol

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Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 16/01/2019 21:06

I had ds at 43!! Previous ds at 37.

BeanSprout79 · 16/01/2019 21:09

Hi, I'm going to be 40 this year and have a 14 month old ds and am trying for another baby. Congratulations

gambaspilpil · 16/01/2019 21:09

J43mum all I can say is the hospital was great. The only real issue is that you will be immediately high risk due to age alone. All my tests put me at a 4:1 risk of having a baby with a chromosoamal abnormality. Ended up getting an invasive test and he is perfect.

CookieWaffle · 17/01/2019 04:33

Soon to be 41 and 11 weeks here with my first! Certainly didn't plan to do this so late but that's the way life goes. I've been told I have to be seen by a consultant but it's not booked in til 20 weeks, is that normal?

1Wanda1 · 17/01/2019 06:36

Perfectly normal cookiewaffle but you probably won't actually be seen by the consultant unless you have a specific problem. I am 42 and found that at my first "consultant" appointments, I was actually just seen by a registrar in the consultant's team. However later on, when I developed some.complicatioms, I was then seen by the consultant.

CritterTamer · 17/01/2019 06:43

Just turned 41 here and currently 17+4 pregnant for the first time with twins. My age hasn't even been mentioned by any midwife as being a factor, with the exception of it being a tick box on the pre-eclampsia rush checklist (I was high risk category anyway due to it being my first pregnancy and a multiple pregnancy so age literally hasn't been a factor so far).

@Cookiewaffle - I've also been referred to consultant led care due to the twin pregnancy, and my first appointment is also at 20 weeks - that's normal.

sandgrown · 17/01/2019 06:53

I was 45 when I had last baby after a 21 year gap. I opted for an amniocentesis. All was fine. Only problem was high blood pressure towards the end . Baby was induced but refused to come out so I had a c section.
My baby is now a strapping teenager! I was more tired possibly than with my older children but of an age where I did not miss my social life as much. My only problem was I had no friends of a similar age with young children but older mothers are much more common now. He has certainly kept me young!

CookieWaffle · 17/01/2019 06:54

Thanks ladies :) I was told by my midwife that because of my age I needed to be seen more regularly and under a consultant. Though they didn't seem that worried by my age. The EPU even told me 40 is the new 30!

Hey @CritterTamer, glad things are progressing well for you. I need to check back on the over 40s thread sometime xx

J43mum · 17/01/2019 08:12

@gambaspilpil what is a invasive test ? I have been told because I have high blood pressure that I might be seen more often , I have booked a private early scan just to get dates etc if they can because I am a little confused as I have had a period ! But this week I feel fine !

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J43mum · 17/01/2019 08:13

@Crittertamer good luck ! Hope your doing ok ?

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J43mum · 17/01/2019 08:14

@cookiewaffle if only it was ? Lol

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gambaspilpil · 17/01/2019 08:30

I had the CVS. Not the most pleasant test but got the results within two days. I had extra checks throughout my pregnancy as I had a big bleed at 11 weeks which ended up being one of the arteries to the placenta rupturing. Saw consultants throughout and had placental scans every 4 weeks

gambaspilpil · 17/01/2019 08:31

Should add that there is the harmony test now which is just a bloody test. However results take around 2 weeks. I just wanted to know quicker as I was already 12 weeks

J43mum · 17/01/2019 09:37

I’m not sure what these tests are , I’m out of the loop my children are 14 and 10 so I guess a lot has changed

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Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 17/01/2019 11:46

I opted for no extra testing. Not even nuchal - though they did tell me it was fine anyway!
I had a consultant as have had multiple dc and a rare blood group.

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Alicarmen · 17/01/2019 17:06

@ crittertamer hi congrats on your pregnancy ! do you know if you can have the harmony test when you are pregnant with twins ?

Floofsquidge · 18/01/2019 11:26

22 weeks with my first and age 40 here. Everything has been straightforward so far, have consultant appointment in a few weeks but told it's likely they'll just check me over and discharge me back to midwife led care as no other complications.
Only issue has been anxiety (of it all going wrong).
40 is not unusual anymore and didn't phase the midwives at all.

39Suzy · 19/01/2019 14:41

I am 40 and currently 28w pregnant. There were a few oldermums on the due in April thread so i set up a FB group for over 40's. Just two of us in it so far (and great fun comparing consultants!) but if anyone else wants to join, DM me x

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