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Anyone else hate pregnancy?!

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scaredmum2be Mon 28-Dec-15 12:06:59

I can't see how women enjoy pregnancy or say they miss being pregnant.
28+2 here and still suffering horrendous morning sickness. Today I can't even keep any liquids down. Had to get off the train twice to throw up and might have to turn around and go home tbh. I've Been throwing up since week bloody five sometimes as much as seven times a day. I have horrendous heartburn some days. So bad the other night I tore my throat vomiting and threw up blood. Let's add restless leg syndrome and tingly feet every time I sit down so I can't even relax, aching body, aching back, constantly nauseous! Why! Why hasn't the morning sickness gone by now sad sorry for the rant but I can't bear the thought I have possibly until week 42 of this sad

Junosmum Mon 28-Dec-15 12:28:48

Yup. I've had a fairly easy pregnancy, some MS, some SPD, lots of heartburn but I just don't like being pregnant.

crumblybiscuits Mon 28-Dec-15 12:30:43

I love being pregnant, discomfort and all but I lost my last baby at 16 weeks so I try to appreciate every second. It's all worth it in the long run smile

Heavenscent86 Mon 28-Dec-15 12:38:13

Pregnancy is hard. I try to enjoy it but it's difficult at times. The first few months I was very poorly with hyperemesis so you have my sympathies. Have you been to the doctor to get any medication to help with your aickness and heartburn? Also try and get hold of a pregnancy pillow for your aching back. It has worked wonders for my back. As far as restless legs go I'm still trying to find things that work for them but I have found keeping them cooler with no clothing on them when they are really bad can help a bit and also running them with some kind of cooling cream. It's not a cure all solution but it eases things a bit.

99percentchocolate Mon 28-Dec-15 12:42:31

Yes! (And have been working up the courage to start a thread asking this for weeks)
Horrendous HG here - still going at 20 weeks and SPD just starting up so I know it isn't going to get better any time soon.
I know I am incredibly lucky to be having my baby and I love him so much already, but feeling like this for 9 months is incredibly difficult.
Hope you feel better soon op flowers

Pebbles601 Mon 28-Dec-15 12:45:12

I hate it sad have HG also & just feel like a shadow of myself. Always tired, no energy etc. I am only 17weeks!! I hate when people say "It isn't an illness" well it bloody feels like one!!! Will all be worth it though.

scaredmum2be Mon 28-Dec-15 13:28:42

I'm glad I'm not the only one.
I have a doctors app tomorrow to discuss ongoing sickness/heartburn. I feel horrendous today. People don't understand it's not normal Ms. It's not normal to be sick every day and feel constantly sick all day every day for 28 frigging weeks. I've been ill since July and it's now nearly 2016. I just find my self sobbing sometimes. It does feel like an illness. Thanks for all the suggestions.
I know I'm lucky and their is thousands of women who would love to be in my position right now but it's so hard to be happy when you feel unwell every day

TaliZorah Mon 28-Dec-15 13:36:45

I hated being pregnant. I have tokophobia and am convinced me and the baby will die until they're born. On top of that I had HG.

Keep going back about the sickness I had to be on antisickness meds

TaliZorah Mon 28-Dec-15 13:38:05

Also I knew I couldn't stand 42 weeks, it's one of the things that pushed me to ask for an ELCS. That way I knew when it would finish.

mellowyellow1 Mon 28-Dec-15 15:38:43

I am not enjoying it either. Feel so heavy and only 26 weeks so not even in the hard stage yet! I hope the doctor's can give you some relief with the tablets, 28 weeks of being sick would have finished me off sad

emmac3616 Mon 28-Dec-15 15:52:27

I'm not enjoying it either - and I didn't with DS1... I feel terrible for not enjoying it - people seem to want you to gush about the joys of pregnancy, the excitement about the baby etc. and after trying for 5 months before falling pregnant - I do realise I am incredibly blessed to be pregnant at all. Personally, I am highly superstitious, don't want to allow myself to get excited until the baby arrives safely (and won't buy anything for him/her until they arrive either), and feel DREADFUL. I'm 25+4 and still feeling very sick, all the time (again as I did with DS1), am having to drink tonnes of prune juice to keep myself from being agonisingly bunged up, am having to limit my beloved exercising much more than I did with DS1 and have a 2 year old to look after and entertain... I want to be joyous about it... ITS JUST HARD!!! And everyone thinks you're a miserable ^&w for not being sickly sweet happy!!! Very pleased to hear I'm not the only one!

Reebok Mon 28-Dec-15 16:04:36

Hate hate hate pregnancy! On baby number two...22 weeks and suffering from hyperemesis yet again (which still has not gone) since week 5. On Medication which constipates me...got bloody acid reflux too. Had a scare at 19 weeks from bleeding and thought I was losing baby so been scared since as I have a history of mc. Sciatic pain, insomnia, nasty taste in my mouth all the time, excess saliva and phlegm, still can't drink water properly or eat well, restless legs, piles, swollen vagina (sorry tmi), early Braxton hicks...and while I suffer from all this I still have my two year old to deal with. Why am I going through this again you ask? I think I must be mental!!!!

99percentchocolate Mon 28-Dec-15 16:08:47

Reebok - it's shit isn't it? I've had two bleeds in the last few weeks and it is utterly terrifying on top of everything else I'm going through. Thankfully baby seems to be ok so far but I'm thinking about asking for an ELCS too as the thought of 42 weeks is just too much.

princesspineapple Mon 28-Dec-15 16:26:41

I don't know if hate is the word I'd use... but I am so rubbish at being pregnant!
I was sick from week 5 to week 24... had a let up for 3 weeks and now it's back, Sciatica, High blood pressure, Gestational diabetes... If I was pregnant in the olden days they'd have left me to die by now!
All these horrible things have turned me into such a whinger... And I think that's what I really hate! Hurry up March and hurry up baby!

Cnmorgan13 Mon 28-Dec-15 17:11:38

Not going so good for me right now either. Just feel so tired. 30 weeks and I'm literally peeing every 2 hours at night. I haven't slept a full night since I got pregnant. My hips ache at night to. And to top it off I'm feeling very self conscious fat ugly pregnancy is not awesome. We were sold a lie. I just want my baby (the good bit) and my body back.

sElizabeth Mon 28-Dec-15 20:06:54

Finding being pregnant a lot harder than I expected (though I am of course extremely grateful)!
The sickness, heartburn and sciatica I can just about handle but my mood is so low. I'm already really concerned about how I'm going to feel when he arrives.

Suzietwo Mon 28-Dec-15 21:50:38

baby number 4 here. i fucking hate being pregnant. and i have a pretty easy time of it.

goodnightdarthvader1 Mon 28-Dec-15 23:14:11

Like suzie, mind's been pretty easy. Still hate it.

mmmuffins Mon 28-Dec-15 23:35:26

Another one having an easy pregnancy and still hating it. I'm now term, but am not remotely excited for my imminent baby; I am excited about the idea of not being pregnant anymore!

Msrichardofyork Mon 28-Dec-15 23:38:17

I'm pregnant again - 7 weeks or so - after a third trimester loss (unexplained stillbirth) last year. I'm conflicted. On the one hand I'm beyond grateful I have the opportunity to welcome another baby and hopefully, hopefully give my living child (and the beautiful one Iost) a sibling that actually comes home from the hospital, but I'm also thinking WHY do I have to do this again, my body has taken so much shit already and ive had to wean off the a/ds that were frankly a lifesaver after what I went through which is no fun at all.

I'm already much sicker this time too. It will be worth it if this baby survives (and sadly that will always feel like the biggest 'if' until he/she is in my arms) but it doesn't feel fair. All the joy of pregnancy has been robbed, and yes I am feeling sorry for myself tonight smile

The anxiety is endless and I'm barely holding it together.

thundernlightning Tue 29-Dec-15 03:35:33

It's awful. Morning sickness up to 22 weeks, a three week reprieve, and now I'm sick and exhausted again. I know there are women who would be glad to be where I am, and I hope they have the baby they want, but good lord. I feel absolutely awful. All the time.

I kind of wish people had been more honest about how awful it can be.

KatyN Tue 29-Dec-15 09:09:23

I'm 40+4 and desperate to never be pregnant again. Really conflicting feelings as I really want a second child (this one is number 2) and feel so guilty moaning about it when I know friends are struggling to conceive.
Tempted to put my maternity clothes that don't fit anymore up for sale today just to feel a bit in control!
I'll be asking for sterilisation at my 6 week check!!!!

Kxx

Colabottle10 Tue 29-Dec-15 09:13:04

"I kind of wish people had been more honest about how awful it can be."

This! I'm finding it awful and I'm only at 6 weeks. I feel bloated and knackered and for the past 2 weeks nauseous all day everyday and finally was sick this morning. I'm not enjoying it - but because we've not told anyone yet I can't explain how I feel to people!

BrienneofQarth Tue 29-Dec-15 09:17:44

Not sure that 'hate' is the word I'd use but this has been so much harder second time round. First time was great, loved being pregnant despite developing sepsis and the two of us nearly dying. Under consultant care this time so have been on antibiotics for pretty much the whole pregnancy, I had to beg the doctor for iron tablets because I was so exhausted all the time. Kept insisting this wasn't right and they kept batting it back with 'you've a toddler & w full time job, what did you expect???' Then got my bloods back and had to wait two weeks for a phone appt to see if o wanted the iron tablets! Feel better since taking them but am now 35 weeks, the size of a house, unable to do the simplest of tasks without knackerkng mussel and can't even get comfy in bed any more!

4 weeks until elcs,, hoping to go before that myself!

Whatdoidohelp Tue 29-Dec-15 09:38:34

You need medication to sort out the sickness. Some GPs are fucking useless and petrified to prescribe pills but there are ones that are proven safe and effective for pregnancy. Start with cyclizine or Promethazine. There is excellent advice on a website called pregnancy sickness support.

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