Sudden gender change(54 Posts)
My cousin is due this month and they just got the news their boy is very likely a girl . Is this possible? They already have bough everything for a boy, got blue gifts, picked a name. It must must be shocking, not meaning in a bad sense but a big change weeks before birth.
Now I am starting stressing out, we are supposed to be team pink, just got pink pram last week and car seat, loads of girly clothes, i have name, I am not even looking at boys names...
We had gender tested as part of Harmony test at 10 weeks and then confirmed by fetal specialist doctor at scan at 17 weeks. We did not ask on 20 weeks scan about gender anymore.
Im just not sure how reliable it all is now.
Anyone has similar experience or worries?
How did anyone decide that your cousin's baby was a boy? Was it a gender specific test - was it s scan or an intrusive genetic type test?
We were told "probably a boy" at our 20 week nhs scan, but also had a private scan a couple of weeks later for more certainty- even this didn't guarantee to be right. It was much longer and more detailed scan- said baby was a girl, and was right. Unless any test has actually sampled the baby's DNA, then no one can be certain.
When I had DS (2002) there was a couple in the hospital who were expecting a girl but had a boy.
It happened to someone I went to school with. She was supposed to be having a boy and literally everything was blue. Birth day came and he was born a she! Everyone had to whip round to get girl things for her quickly.
This happened to my cousins first baby - they had twenty week scan and we're told it was a girl - got everything link and then at birth had the shock of their life when it was a boy!! (this was about 7 years ago). now they say when you have the twenty week scan that it is not a definite, and have signs around the waiting room - well they did in the hospital I was under.
I had a friend it happened to as well. I thought they made it clear that it isn't an absolute certainty.
'Everyone had to whip round to get girl things for her quickly.'
Imagine if they'd put a girl in blue!
I'm sure it's rare OP, but it does happen. I thought no one was ever told a 'definite' answer to avoid this type of situation.
Scans aren't 100% accurate. You've seen what scans look like, obviously sonographers/obstetricians are experts at reading them, but you do get errors in determining the sex if a baby from them.
In contrast, I'd think that your harmony result would be as reliable as the Harmony results for other chromosomes, so I would be more confident with the result of a Harmony test. Though we didn't find out the sex of our baby with our harmony test, so I didn't research how accurate it is for confirming the sex if a baby.
There's another good reason not to buy into "pink for girls blue for boys"
I think unless they actually have a same of the child's dna (amnio or cv test) then the drs are pretty much guessing the gender.
Your harmony test result would be very accurate OP, so i imagine its highly unlikely you have the wrong info.
I think this goes to show why its not a good idea to get too much stuff before the baby is here!! Esp gender specific stuff, it is def not guaranteed that the scans are 100% accurate. Although I hate the whole blue is for boys, pink for girls thing
I was told I was having a girl at my 20 week scan but a doula friend of mine was absolutely convinced the sonographers were wrong.
I questioned them later on and they said they'd never made any mistakes.
Having said that I got everything neutral at first and then more girly stuff when she was born because it suits dd and because I got fed up of beige, lime green and yellow And everyone asking what she was.
I dread this!
We've been told we're having our second girl at a private gender scan and then confirmed at the 20 week scan and have got everything out of the loft and ready for her, I do have a niggle they were wrong though because this pregnancy is the polar opposite to my first in every way.
It must be a very weird feeling when it happens because you feel as if you know them once you know the sex.
I wanted a private gender scan, but then I went on Google and saw lots of stories that people were told the wrong sex so I thought I'd rather not waste my money, and probably get a 4d scan later on in my pregnancy.
Though I was told at 14 weeks when I had my proper scan that the sonographer felt that it was 70% likely to be a boy, and said asides from obviously the umbilical cord she was pointing at a 'willy' lol.
I trust the NHS sonographer much more than an expensive private company who make such claims and have small print if the results are wrong.
I am having my 20 week scan soon, but won't be buying many things in colour I.e pram incase I hbe another baby and it's the opposite gender.
Sorry to hear that.
A friend of mine was told girl then a month before she was due the midwife decided that the babies heart rate pointed towards a boy and they got worries as had bought lots of girls stuff, baby was born and it was a girl as originally told just thought I would mention it in case its a similar situation
We were told a girl at 20 weeks and at a private 4D scan at 30 weeks. Still bought 'gender neutral' stuff, partly because they are sometimes wrong and partly because we hoped we'd have another baby so it made more sense financially. However I'm always confused when people post on buy and sell sites saying things like 'looking for a pram for a girl please'. Does it have to be a particular colour for a girl to be able to travel/lie/sleep in it?!
We're buying gender neutral stuff too GotToBe, we've not decided if we'll find out the gender yet, but I'm not a fan of pastel blues and pinks. I see our baby in whites then primary colours and lovely greens and orange.
I am not a fan on pink from girls blue for boys. We have had two separate scans that pointed towards us having a girl and we are decorating the nursery greens and yellows. Although now out family and friends know we are having a girl we have BAGS AND BAGS of pink clothes. Infact my partner and I haven't had a change to buy any clothes for our daughter because everything has been given/bought for us. So if we do have a boy he will be wearing 'daddies little girl' tops ha!
Gender as result of the Harmony test is more than 99% accurate as it tests DNA. Don't worry, you're having a girl.
I understand that if you're expecting one gender and get another that's a shock
But I just can't get my head around all this pink for girls/ blue for boys - its 2015!!!
Interesting. I didn't find out with either, but took a lot of stick for buying a navy pram, grey buggy and lots of white clothes with animals before ours were born. My main reason is that I expected everything to last for a hopeful second baby so wanted gender 'unspecific'! People thought I should have got everything pink as soon as Dd1 was born. I didn't? Ironically, I then Went on to have Dd2 .
I have heard of lots of people being told it is probably, then going with that as a definite! Was kind of pleased I didn't ask!
Harmony test should be very accurate. Our sonographer did not seem convinced either way but suggested boy....until he turned and flashed his willy at me very obviously. I think the chances of this one being a girl is exceedingly low!
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