I'm 17 weeks with our first DC and starting to get a little bit worried about how my MIL is going to behave around the time of the birth. We've always had a slightly strained relationship and manage to rub each other up the wrong way without trying.
Recently my DH's cousin and his GF had a baby and GF was in hospital with an infection for weeks. Their wishes were no visitors until she was back home and feeling up to it and MIL was outraged. She ended up going anyway, from what I can only assume was still against their wishes, as it sounds like the visit was very tense.
She's already making comments about our baby being 'hers' and how she is going to be 'outside the door' while I am giving birth and how she knows I won't be as rude as cousin's gf and not let her see 'her baby'.
Thing is, I think I'm going to want a few days to ourselves after the baby is here, maybe longer if things don't go to plan or one of us gets poorly. I know I definitely don't want anyone else there except my DH for the birth. I just don't know how I'll feel and want to have some control in a situation where all control will be taken out of my hands in the moment. How the heck do we talk to her about this?
Feeling a little sensitive this week also as she put a pregnancy announcement on FB without asking us first (we haven't put anything about the baby on FB thus far) and I know I'm being totally unreasonable because she's clearly excited but I can't help being really cheesed off.
DH thinks I'm worrying about nothing but that we do need to talk to her. Both dreading it. Any tips?
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pepperfish · 15/12/2014 10:51
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