Hi all, I have a dilemma atm that I just can't seem to settle on.
I am currently 9+1 and don't have my 12wk scan booked until 30th December. So far only mine and DH's bosses know about the pregnancy and only one of my sisters out of all our family even knew we were trying.
My dilemma is that we're due to see my family (parents, sisters and their DPs) on Boxing Day where my other sister who I only see twice a year is travelling 100 miles just for the two days over Christmas, and my grandparents who I also only see twice a year live a stone throw from my parents house, so would be a perfect time to tell everyone...
Then DH's family we usually see Christmas Day, but for a few reasons, this year it will probably be 27th we see them. His family we only see maybe twice a year, so again, good time to tell...
The thing is I'm super paranoid about telling anyone before my scan, as I'm worried after 4yrs of trying and being referred to fertility specialists, we've finally managed to conceive and I'm terrified it will jinx it! I will be just under 12wks if we tell on the above dates...
My other concern is that my family are renowned for not being able to keep a secret in anyway. And its not a case of asking them to be quiet until we announce, because from experience I know that my mother in particular will promise not to tell, then just say to people "oh but don't say anything, cause we're not supposed to tell anyone" she did it with our surprise engagement, and also with my sister's engagement too, so I have no doubt this news will spread like wildfire as soon as we leave...
If we don't say anything till after the scan, it may be we have to tell people over the phone instead as we won't get a chance to see them again for a long time.
The other thing I should mention is that due to illness I've already had scans at 6 and 8wks, both of which have come back good size sac/fetus and hb...
My mw thinks I'm being silly not telling anyone at this stage, and jokingly said its a very "first time parent" concern. My DH agrees and wants to tell everyone at Christmas, but understands my concerns. Do you think I'm being overly cautious, or should I wait? I've handmade some cards announcing the pregnancy for our family, and really wanted to be able to give them over and see their reactions when they open them rather than post. So can only do that if we announce "early" before scan I'm so confused!
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Announce at Christmas or wait until scan?
misseskimo · 08/12/2014 23:57
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