Hi all,
I'm only 16 weeks pregnant, but this is already causing arguments and stress. My mum wants to stay with us after the birth, my sister is also aching to be there right away. Neither can understand why I don't want them at the hospital (I only want my DH there).
Whenever I mention my mum's insistence on being there, my DH gets upset thinking his parents are being ousted out the picture in favour of my side of the family. This is reinforced by my very vocal nan seeming to think she will drive us to the hospital when I go into labour (my DH doesn't drive) even though we've planned transport. She also always forgets about DH's side of the family, arguing that she's second in line to babysit after my mum. She's very pushy so I can understand why he gets irritated, but I know that this is all coming from a place of excitement and love on their part. I also know we're ultimately in control, no one else, but DH is getting very antsy about it all.
How did you manage who comes to visit first (and possibly telling others they have to wait their turn?) Did your mum or MIL stay with you afterwards and how did you work that out? How can I ensure my side of the family doesn't sideline DH's side!? My MIL and PIL are excited but we're not as close as I am with my parents obviously, so I speak to them about it less and they haven't ever mentioned staying after the birth so I am assuming they don't plan to. It also doesn't help that DH's side of the family always travel in a large group, bringing both his brothers and often extended family with them too which just makes the issue of visiting a lot more hectic!
Argh, don't know what to do. I want to be in control of it but feel other people are already sticking their oar in - had a long text from my mum this morning telling me I would need her and that it's what women do all over the world. Can't get anyone to back off and let us make our own plans! Help! :)
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MelonLemon · 15/02/2014 14:58
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