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I have to get rid of my dog .I can't do it anymore.

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ComeWhineWithMe Mon 19-Jan-09 15:53:31

We have had our dog 2.5 years,we all love him to bits when we get home he had come from a home where he was left alone for quite a while each ever day and this made him anxious it was also the reason she gave him away .With us he would hardly ever be alone certainly not for long periods.

So fast forward to now and the dog is only left alone on school runs and if I go shopping or to the library /friends house in the day .He is well fed ,happy and is walked three times a day and a good long walk once a day .

But whenever I leave him he poos and wees and I can't cope I have a toddler and I am pg it is making me ill ,the vet has checked he is fine ,we have tried putting paper down ,letting him out just before we go out ,leaving him outside (he is safe and warm) but he barks and barks and a neighbour has complained .We even spent loads on one of those plug in 's didn't work ,have also done the leaving music /tv on.

I have just thrown up everywhere after cleaning poo off my bedroom floor ,and wee and poo from the hallway .

There is nothing more I can do I am beginning to resent the dog and do not want a new baby crawling where he has messed I am dreading opening the fromt door to see what he has done this time .

He is a lab cross and is almost 4.

LauraOB Tue 13-Nov-12 21:21:17

hello, Did ComeWhineWithMe manage to get rid of her dog? as i am going through exactly the same issues, and need to get rid of mine quickly, already tried dog centers etc etc but i am beginnign to hate her. plz help

RhondaRoo Wed 11-Jan-12 16:09:30

Instead of a crate have you thought of giving him a 'safe' area?

Somewhere that is his, you or DP clean it/tend to it - no children allowed anywhere near it?

An example - a table with a blanket/sheet draped over it, his bed and teddies (my dog is the same for teddies) underneath?

If he has a safe place he may respond to training better?

(not qualified in dog training, just my dog is obsessed with sitting under the table!)

D0oinMeCleanin Wed 11-Jan-12 16:05:54

You don't need a trainer you need a behaviorist. The two are not always the same. You'll need a home visit and one to one advise. You will be able to find a local one here or contact minimu (a poster on here) and she is a behaviorist and might know someone local to you. Avoid anyone who mentions pack theory or uses harsh training methods.

How did you go about trying to crate the dog? Most dogs can be crate trained but it takes time. You can't just shut them in and expect them to get on with it.

Nothing you have mentioned on here is a serious issue. It can all be worked on if you are willing to put in the time.

wibblymama Wed 11-Jan-12 15:56:25

Hi I am new to mumsnet as I too am really struggling to cope with my puppy. I have a one year old and a three year old and just can't cope anymore. I feel so foolish for getting the dog in the first place. Reading your message made me feel like I wasn't alone so neither are you! Our dog is lovely and my husband adores her but he is out all day and I am at home with all three. I feel she would be happier in a new home that can focus on her 100%.Am dreading the 'I told you so's' from friends neighbours, family etc.

brimfull Tue 20-Jan-09 00:14:30

I old girl is incontinent and the mess is very stressful ,especially when she has a runny tummy.

Mysterymoniker (brave woman) may be able to help smile

mysterymoniker Mon 19-Jan-09 16:42:34

I would take him on

mysterymoniker Mon 19-Jan-09 16:41:43

this page is full of tried and tested methods for tackling separation anxiety

I deal with problems like this in dogs allll the time using these sort of techniques, it is not likely to be a leadership issue (very few things are)

HuwEdwards Mon 19-Jan-09 16:41:41

I meant to add that I had a VERY destructive dog some years ago, BUT I had no children, I really couldn't have dealt with both.

HuwEdwards Mon 19-Jan-09 16:40:39

I, like Emkana think you should re-home him, to someone with more energy and time on their hands than you will have (when that baby arrives smile who can hopefully help sort his problems for him.

You've done the obvious stuff, let him go.

Go easy on yourself and Good luck.

scardypants Mon 19-Jan-09 16:35:57

What 'rules' has he got? Is he allowed to jump up on you, dc's, furniture? Does he run straight to you or jump up when you get home? If so, how do you respond? Do you give out to him when you see what he's done or when you catch him doing it? Is it possible he has placed himself higher in your 'pack' and as such he frets for 'your safety' when you leave causing him a lot of stress?

Mutt Mon 19-Jan-09 16:26:49

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

CarGirl Mon 19-Jan-09 16:25:39

But if you borrowed a dog and it worked then you can honestly say he needs rehoming with other dogs.

You have my sympathy, my mother's dog did this (but not till it was much older -14). I looked after it for a while to give her a breakand found the mess very stressful, to say the least. Dog was miserable even when left for minutes alone, and barked and moaned constantly.
It has just been put down. We tried everything we could think of/afford.
I think in the end, dogs are dogs. Not children.

chancelloroftheexCHEQUERS Mon 19-Jan-09 16:25:14

I've actually been thinking about getting another dog to keep my girl dog company but not sure if I could cope with his issues.

ComeWhineWithMe Mon 19-Jan-09 16:23:43

I did think that cargirl ,he seems ok with girl dogs but hates other males .But I don't think I could cope with another dog anyway .

I did buy him one of those lifesize cuddly dogs but he kept humping it grin.

petrovia Mon 19-Jan-09 16:21:46

I don't know Geepers I was just trying to be optimistic.

CarGirl Mon 19-Jan-09 16:20:54

can you borrow a friends dog for a few days to see if he stops messing if he has a companion with him? Worth a try?

Mutt Mon 19-Jan-09 16:18:36

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ComeWhineWithMe Mon 19-Jan-09 16:18:36

He has at least an hours long walk a day from dp ,we live in a house which backs onto a field so are lucky ,he is also taken out throughout the day.

I did think maybe a crate was used in his old home he is also terrified of tall men (dp is a shortarse) so wonder if something awful happened to him when he was a pup.

He has plenty of food ,toys ,chews everyone is in love with him even the bloody vet hmm he is so lovely people stop me when I am out with him just to comment on how lovely he is he is so much a part of the family I just can't cope with the mess he would be the perfect dog if he didn't have ishooos.

Geepers Mon 19-Jan-09 16:17:25

Petrovia, honestly, who is going to want to put in the time and effort to deal with seperation anxiety in a dog they have no attachment to?

There are hundreds of thousands of near perfect dogs out there who can't find homes, the chances of finding a loving, life-long home for a dog with ishoos is remote. Sorry.

ComeWhineWithMe Mon 19-Jan-09 16:13:59

It was introduced slowly ,we put his teddys in it and blankets (he has a thing for teddies) It was in the house for a few days so he got used to it ,when we put him in he would whimper and howl as if in pain ,I could have dealt with it but he shook as well really badly that I can't terrify him like that .

Mutt Mon 19-Jan-09 16:13:50

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

petrovia Mon 19-Jan-09 16:13:33

Not necessarily Geepers. There might be someone who can help him.

Geepers Mon 19-Jan-09 16:12:08

If you get rid of him he is just going to be moved from home to home as everyone discovers the same problem with him.

He'd have gone long ago if he was mine, though. Well done for putting up with it for so long.

chancelloroftheexCHEQUERS Mon 19-Jan-09 16:11:16

How did you introduce the crate? It should be done slowly and gently so they see it as a place of safety and want to be in there.

They should never be put in one as a punishment either (sorry MC).

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