She is lovely my dd, she really is, but she is also a right royal pain in the arse and I am sure I must be culpable in some way.
She's 2.10.
This is commom to a lot of toddlers I know, but she is so bloody awkward. How strict should I be with the following examples:
Not sitting at the table - standing on her seat to reach over to the other side of the table and knocking something over in the process. - Should I require her to sit on her bottom throughout the meal and not be so informal at the table? I get embarrassed when we are eating in public as I am sure I get looks
Having dicky fits if I push the button to the lift rather than her, if I flush the loo rather than her, if I give her a yellow spoon rather than a red one, if I lift her baby brother into the bath before her.... - Should I be pandering to these whims (currently I do let her do all of this although it's not convenient sometimes, and makes things more cumbersome and complicated), or should I be ignoring her and doing what is practical and expedient for me
I wonder if I am creating a little fiend by being too conciliatory with her and not strict enough. But again...can you be too strict
(I know she doesn't sound too challenging from these examples but I probably haven't explained it very well - you try spending a day with her!)
This takes a lot to admit - so please don't be harsh or judgemental, but occasionally my anger and frustration with the 'abuse' she deals out to me (it feels like abuse, of course, I do realise she is too little to realise that she is distressing me and doesn't mean to cause upset) wells up and I smack her / push her (I so hate weakening and doing that), or I'm mentally quite spiteful to her...(i.e harsh in what I say to her or unsympathetic and cold)
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handlemecarefully · 19/05/2005 23:20
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