Are little boys more disgusting than little girls?

[noitsgrubby]

My dd(6) was sitting at the table last night when ds(3) slipped on the same chair but behind her. He was wearing his underpants and nothing more.....
A few moments later dd protested 'Mum I can smell poo'.
Ds was then caught in the act of putting his finger up his bottom and rubbing it all over his sister's back, it was also all over his tummy.
'I'm making patterns' was his only defence.
When does this sort of thing stop? Dd never did it, just saying poo is exciting enough for her....

[broccolispears]

No, of course little boys are not more disgusting than little girls. I don't think children are disgusting at all really, just experimental and unaware of boundaries.

Some children are more experimental than others. Gender irrelevant.

[melrose]

I've no idea , but you have made me laugh! I ahve 2 sons and am getting a bit worried.In the words of my Mum" Sons get to be lovely at about 21!"

[noitsgrubby]

Does that count as 'more experimental'or with the normal boundaries of experimentation?
I did take some comfort from his explanation, leaning towards the artistic as it did.

[noitsgrubby]

To be honest, I went into the next room so he couldn't see me laughing. Then I cleaned him up and gave him a piece of paper and a pen...
Maybe I'm a bad mother? if I'd given him that in the beginning he wouldn't have had to resort to the poo.

I gave dd a clean top too as she has very high standards of cleanliness and is generally far removed from disgusting

[Pinkjenny]

I've been amazed at how I've laughed at some of the mischevious things that dd has done, I never thought I'd be that kind of mum.

But I have to be honest, I'm not sure I'd find that very funny. Especially for dd.

[belgo]

If he does it again, I promise you you will not be laughing. Playing with poo is gross, and girls do it as well as boys experience.

But at age three I think he's old enough to learn that it's not acceptable. Let's hope he didn't see you laughing.

[belgo]

don't know how I got experience in blue!

[Collision]

that is gross and not funny at all!

I could understand a toddler experimenting with poo (if not watched) but a 3y old!

Disgusting. Your poor DD.

My boys fart and burp and are generally vile as boys can be. No exp of girls but the poo thing has made me feel sick..........

[pucca]

I have to say ime my ds is seriously gross! he is 2, and when i put him to bed he either poos then (when i am not there) quietly and wipes it everywhere or he wakes up quietly and does the same thing.

This morning i went into him, he had woke up earlier but had been very quiet so i didn't wake up and had pooed, took his nappy off, it was all over him, all over his bedding, all over the carpet.

Ime my dd who is 5 in Jan NEVER did this, never even attempted to take her nappy off EVER. I am at my wits end tbh, he has a potty in his room, and is good as gold on the potty in the daytime, but i have this problem of when he is in his room.

[broccolispears]

Hang on... "I gave dd a clean top too as she has very high standards of cleanliness" - I think you only need very basic standards of cleanliness to want to change your top when it has poo on it.

[belgo]

pucca - they do grow out of it, I promise you.

[pucca]

Belgo.... I really really hope so, it is driving me mad!

[belgo]

Pucca - do you think he might be ready to potty train? That solved the problem with us.

[Miggsie]

my friend had 3 boys, then a girl.
She was astounded how different her DD was compared to the boys (who would make the SAS look like quiet pacifist nancy boys).
So they are definitely different, don't know about more disgusting...
Oh, one of them did once smear poo on his friend's house bannisters for some reason...but I don't think this is typical.

[pucca]

Well he is really good in the day, just pretty much decided for himself, and he will just go and do on the potty or ask me for it, but there is absolutely no way he is ready for night time yet, and this is when he does all his poo smearing (lol although i certainly wasn't laughing this morn!).

[Badgermoose]

Noitsgrubby - PMSL
I'd have been in the kitchen with you guffawing. Sadly much lower standards of cleanliness prevail in our house, that close to bath time would have been touch and go as to whether DD got a clean top or not

(Of course boys are grubbier, DP still thinks it hysterical to fart in bed)

[Milcy]

That's disgusting. My DS would never have done that at any age, DH would hit the roof and keep on going.

[Papillon]

I know a boy and a girl both around 3 who smear their poo, stash their poo, generally do what we adults consider gross and nasty.

So both genders can be equalling disgusting. Society tends to consider females the less disgusting, because boys have been given greater domain to roam in the disgusting range than girls.

3 year olds are in the age category of still learning what adults consider disgusting or hygenic.

My boy who is afew months off 3 peed on the carpet the other day. I got him to clean it, with my help did not raise my voice and reinforced without me having a reactive hissy fit (which hey we can all do in our uncalm, short term emotional moments) that "No pee the carpet" "smelly" and "pee goes in the loo"

Seems to have worked has he has mentioned it several times.

Scat art, bit naughty aye! maybe he should have been made to wash his sisters back

[NotAnOtter]

teenage girls are far more fetted than their male counterparts!!

[Miaou]

Nah, not a boy thing. Ds1 is 3 and not potty trained yet, but gets very upset if he discovers he has done a poo in his nappy (and woe betide if he has an innocent bum scratch and gets pooey fingers - he comes wailing to me for his hands cleaning, would never even wipe them off!)

[noitsgrubby]

brocolispears - that was a tongue in cheek remark, of course my dd had a clean top, I'm not going to make the poor child sit around wearing her brother's poo until bedtime.
Rest assured that it was explained to ds quietly and firmly, and with a very stern face, that this was in no way acceptable behaviour.
Papillion - thanks for the view that 3 year olds are still learning about hygiene that's my instinct about ds whereas dd was quite different.
As for me I'm not as repulsed by poo as I am by unkindness and violence - that's what really makes me cross. I guess I'm confident that you grow out of the poo stage but the instinct to be mean and belt people may stay around for years.

[naomi83]

my friend's 18 month old, beautiful angelic little girl removed her nappy in the night and tried eating it, her mum found it all over the cot and her mouth in the morning, and you've never seen such a girly girl in your life. I think before potty training the best way to deal with it is keep them in popper vests (go up to large sizes in M&S) and a grobag so they just can't get to that area. My little boy (18months) is as grubby as they come, always mucky, likes to touch himself in nappy changes and shout willy, hasn't tried anything like this yet!