Since becoming a sahm, I have sometimes felt that generally speaking many people don't value the role or understand why someone would choose it.
Every family makes different decisions, whether it be working full/part time, working because they have to, or working because they choose to (meaning they could financially cope having a parent at home). I really don't care about others decisions, as there is never one right way to do things, just what you believe is best for your family.
But so often, people make jibes about me staying at home. People have said "it just isn't what people do now", and implying it is wrong for me to be financially dependent on Dh. Also, if I worked we would be entitled to child tax credits even if Dh earnt twice his salary, but because I don't we don't get anything. We cope okay without child tax credits, I am just pointing it out. I feel as though so much of our society is geared towards both parents working (but then perhaps families where both parents work would say the opposite, I don't know).
Dh and I figured out that if I was to work part time and we put dd into nursery (we don't live near family), with the extra help we would get from the government we would actually be taking more money than I would give back in tax, as my previous job which is what I'm trained in isn't too well paid. So staying at home for us makes the most sense, as well as the fact I enjoy it.
Does anyone else feel the same, or perhaps have any insights?
Thank you.
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wildflowerfable · 24/05/2017 15:25
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