Dad doesn't see point of taking 6 month old to see father christmas

[Suzy4321]

Hi, my husband is great with our daughter (6months old today). But I booked too see Santa and he thinks it's a waste of time and money. He doesn't really see the point. I know she won't know but I want a first photo etc , but he is so negative. Even down to presents he says she has lots of toys why buy more for Christmas. She don't know. Please understand he is great with her and always buying bits and playing with her. Feeling down with trying to convince him! I want him to come along but i don't want him moaning. Anyone been in similar situations?

[Floggingmolly]

I don't see the point either, tbh.

[Yankeetarts19]

I'd wait till they are older

[MilkTwoSugarsThanks]

1. I agree with your DH.
   
2. She will cry her eyes out, possibly scream and that 1st photo you want will be shit.

[Helmetbymidnight]

Aww, you're both right.

Can you take her by yourself?

[GastonsChestHair]

He's right in my opinion. It's just a photo opportunity. And as for the presents, what does she need? I'm sure she has lots of toys that still interest her.

[IoraRua]

I think he's right.

[Fourormore]

He's probably right and she probably will cry. It'll be just as cute next year when she's 18 months and has a bit of idea what it's all about.

[SeekEveryEveryKnownHidingPlace]

I'm with him on this one!

[MilkTwoSugarsThanks]

Bit like this!

[Suzy4321]

Just me then. I know i can take her myself but I would of liked him to come.

[GastonsChestHair]

Milk

[Hydradela]

Sorry, I also think it's a waste of time and money. Google scared children seeing father christmas and you'll see that it's not a great photo opportunity if she's terrified.

[AnnPerkins]

He's right.

At six months old, however, she's unlikely to complain at being dressed in a cute Christmassy costume for photos .

He's not wrong about the presents either, really. DS was six months old at his first Christmas and we didn't get him much at all. His main (and favourite) present was stacking cups.

[Hydradela]

Milk x-post

[LikeASoulWithoutAMind]

MilkTwoSugars

Sorry OP but I'm with your Dh on this one.

[Zombiemama]

Every parent needs that 1st photo with Santa where baby is roaring his/her head off it makes for fab cringe moments when the baby is older.
Dd was 4 weeks on her 1st Christmas and we didn't manage to get her to Santa and I regretted it but she's off this morning to see him b4 she turns 1 next week.

[NickNackNooToYou]

Totally agree with your DP, sorry OP [santa]

[OddBoots]

If you have booked it now then you may as well try to go but be prepared for it to be more terrifying than fun for her at this age.

[MynameisMummy]

Maryz is right, I think. It's for you and it's about your excitement at her first Christmas. But why not just on that score? Can't you ask him to come and enjoy it with you - for you?

[PennyHasNoSurname]

Im in your dhs corner. At a push id try a baby that age in a shop, freebie, no booking. But its a bit daft to book and pay for a six month old to visit santa.

[Jackie0]

He is right op,it's a waste of money.
I know you want a nice 'first Christmas photo' , so maybe it's worth the expense to you .

[MilkTwoSugarsThanks]

What you also need to consider OP, seriously, is that while it's a simple fact that your DD won't understand there is a very real probability that she will be scared.

Do you really want to do that to your DD?

[Helmetbymidnight]

MaryZ has it!

Tell him it's not for her, it's for you. That you want the excitement of going to Father Christmas and buying and opening presents. That part of the excitement of being a new mum is that you want to do these things with your child because you will remember even if she doesn't.

It's a waste of time and money as an activity for her so he should look at it as time and money spent on you.

But if he really can't stand it, don't hold it against him if he is otherwise an involved and supportive dad. Lots of us have our (irrational) sticking points of stuff that we can't bring ourselves to do...