Are you turning into your mother? I am!

[Sittingonmysoggybottom]

I'm 30, my mother is 60.

Today me and DH had the day off and went into town during which time I did three things that have stopped me dead in my tracks because of how much like me mother they were;

(1) A young man was cycling fast on the pavement. I shouted after him that he was a maniac. There are numerous elements of my mother in this- (a) I felt it was okay to yell at a stranger in public; (b) I used the word 'maniac'; (c) I judged him based on his appearance; (d) I described him on MN as a 'young man'.

(2) I saw a teenage boy dressed what I thought was absurdly. When he was out of earshot I said to my DH 'What did he come as? Is this what the kids wear nowadays?'. There are a number of elements of my mother in this- (a) I noticed what some random child was wearing; (b) I commented on it in public and someone could have known I was referring to him but I didn't care; (c) I referred to anyone under my age as 'the kids'; (d) I had to ask if that was the fashion, I didn't just know.

(3) When we got home, we made a cup of tea and I stood in the window looking at the street whilst I was drinking my tea. I gave DH a running commentary of what tradesmen every house had working there, what it looked like they were doing, speculating on the price, speculating on how much value it would/wouldn't add to their house and commented on how reliable the tradesmen looked. This is my mother through-and-through.

Are you turning into your mother. How? Does it freak you out? Or are you quite happy about it?

I'm quite happy that I might give as little of a shit about everything like my mum but not so happy about turning into a generally annoying, moany grump.

[Sallyhasleftthebuilding]

When im yelling talking calmly to the kids i say ... stop turning me into my mother!!!! Sorry theres no escape ...

[OurBlanche]

No, DH stares at me with a very special 'Holy Fuck' look and I come to my senses!

[SionnachDana]

In some ways, but I'm pro-choice, left wing, feminist, outspoken, I believe in people's right to be an individual and she's pro-life, quite right wing, believes gay people shouldn't call their civil partnership a '''marriage''. She thinks various people (usually women) should pipe down and save their breath to cool their porridge. Even though she's quite outspoken in that belief!

Apart from that I'm very like her.

[miaowroar]

My oldest friend laughingly told me a couple of months ago that I was turning into my mother.

I was grammar naziing on about apostrophes.

I didn't dare ask her if it was a good thing or a bad thing because I think I know!

[miaowroar]

Oh - and Sitting - I am 60 and my mother is 83 - it can go on for 30+ years!

[leadrightfoot]

I actually heard myself sounding like my mother and looked round for her. It was me. And then I see her in shop windows, but it isn't it is me. I think she is stalking me

[StormyLlewelyn]

I am definitely on the road to becoming my mother. Luckily I love her to bits so it's no bad thing :o

1. I've started using phrases I remember from my own childhood. Phrases like:
   

• "Close the door, do you think I'm heating the street?" This baffles DC1 who then thinks he's doing a kindness to chilly passersby by leaving the door open.
  

• "Why are all the lights on? It's not Blackpool Illuminations!" My DC have never been to Blackpool, they have no idea what I'm talking about.
  

• "Were you born in a barn?" DC1 usually responds with a confused "I'm not sure. .." before trotting off to ask DH.
  

1. DH informs me I've started making noises when watching TV or reading and that this is something my mother does. I can't watch a programme without muttering "eee!" at least once or gasping or saying "aw!".

[WhereYouLeftIt]

Definitely.

I increasingly comment out loud about the film/TV program we are watching although I have yet to start talking to the characters as if they can hear me . And I have noted for years that young fashionably-dressed people in winter will catch their death and where's their coat?

[Sittingonmysoggybottom]

Stormy

• "Why are all the lights on? It's not Blackpool Illuminations!" My DC have never been to Blackpool, they have no idea what I'm talking about.
  

I say this as well because my mum says it. I've never been to Blackpool

[Sallyhasleftthebuilding]

DH says well ill go to the foot of my stairs!!!` .... no idea?

[AugustRose]

Yes, more and more I hear myself saying things she would say or catch myself doing the little mannerisms she does

[Sittingonmysoggybottom]

sally Is your DH from the Midlands? My mother used to always say this and she got it from her mother. Brummy through and through.

[Sallyhasleftthebuilding]

Oddly im a brummie and hes a northerner ...
Ive just said to DD If inly you had the brains you were born with ..

[Janeymoo50]

My mum sadly died a couple of years ago but she'd be proud to know that I carry on in her memory with the following comments/observations which I know I now make on a regular basis:

"He must be an age now!" this is mentioned whenever some old TV celebrity crops up on tv that was long thought dead.

"She\he must need the money" this is mentioned whenver some once fairly well known celebrity suddenly appears on TV after years in the wilderness advertising loo rolls or lottery tickets (yes, you know the one I mean).

"She should have her hair tied back: - any female on a cooking show with long untied hair (the same applies to huge rings on fingers when making pastry).

Tutting loudly at people in restaurants who sit through their entire meal with their heavy winter coats on. I actually did this last year and was fixated by this chap who sat eating his lovely steak with a coat on all night, in the end I swapped seats with my dp as it was annoying me so much to look at him.

[Sittingonmysoggybottom]

Janey I'm sure your mum would be delighted

And YY about the hair tied back when cooking. I absolutely hate to see people on TV cooking with rings on. And on Saturday Kitchen when James Martin eurgh vile man gives his hands a really crap perfunctory rinse (probably in cold water) after he's been messing with raw meat. Wash them properly you dirty bastard.

[greenhill]

I used to complain to my DM that my gran only ever wrote me letters about the price of her shopping: cauliflowers were 46p in one shop and 99p in another etc when I was a student.

Now I realise that my DM and I spend ages talking about the price of everything

[miaowroar]

"Were you born in a barn?" DC1 usually responds with a confused "I'm not sure. .." before trotting off to ask DH.

When I said this to my son he answered "I don't know - you were there!"

Mum berated me for not telling her something before it was resolved. I told her that I did this to stop her worrying and going on about it. She then sent me an email detailing all the reasons why she worried about things - so now she's worrying about worrying ... that's worrying isn't it?

[Annunziata]

Yes, my precious baby just got married and I am on a sticky slope into my mum (a.k.a The Mother in Law from Hell).

I am trying extremely hard not to comment but their house is a tip and there is still no baby.

I am thinking of yoga or something to calm me down.

[PetiteBateau]

God I hope not. She's dead & before that she was drunk.

[FeelingSoBlue]

I'm 26 years of age and regularly tut at 'the kids' (sometimes in their late thirties) not dressing for the weather, the prices of basic items in different stores and blatantly snubbing modern technology. I'm fucked.

[FeelingSoBlue]

Petite :o ... are we related?

[PetiteBateau]

Maybe we are blue

[HellKitty]

Never. And I've told the DCs that if I show any signs of turning into Grandma then they can fill me full of brandy and dump me off a cliff.

[UntilTheCowsComeHome]

I sent DH a selfie of me looking, I thought, demure and come-hither (it wasn't rude, I promise)

He replied "god, you really look like your mum in that"

He wasn't trying to be funny either.