DS (5 mo) has been sleeping really badly of late; last night he was up every 45 minutes (combination of teething, eczema, sleep regression and possibly a cold coming). He has always been mainly breastfed, but used to get 1 bottle of formula per night from DH. However, he's been refusing this for about a fortnight now, and just screams until I come and bf him. Obviously, this means I have to do all the night feeds, and I'm exhausted!
We go to PILs once per week (DH goes separately once a week as well). I suggested to DH that I would like to skip it this week, as I'm tired and could do with a rest (by the time DH gets home from work, there's only really 2 hours till bedtime starts, and they're filled with me doing laundry, having a shower, dinner etc, so I don't really get a break). So my suggestion was that we all skip the visit, DH can look after DS for an hour, and I can get a rest. DH has said no, he wants to go to his parents' house, and wants DS to go too. I asked how he planned to feed DS if he gets hungry, and he said "I'll take a bottle of formula, and if he's hungry enough, he'll take it".
I'm not convinced by this - DS has never yet refused a bottle and then come round to the idea. He usually cries and cries until he's sick. I think he'll whip himself into a frenzy, and by the time he gets home it'll take me so long to calm him that the rest will have been pointless. I also can't stand the thought of him being hungry and wondering why I'm not there, and being all confused and upset. He's not well at the moment, and has been extra clingy.
The visit would take about 2-3 hours. He's pretty much guaranteed to be hungry at some point. They only live 20 mins away, but I know that DH wouldn't come home early just because DS is screaming. I don't want him crying for me for that length of time.
The alternatives are that we go as normal, so I don't get a rest, or DH goes without us, so I still don't get a rest (unless DS happens to sleep) and DH is cross, or none of us go.
Am I being unreasonable to say that DH can't take DS with no means of feeding him? Or am I being too PFB about it all?
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AIBU to say no to DH taking DS for a few hours with no means of feeding him?
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WhyNotSmile · 21/01/2015 18:54
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