LO is 4.5 weeks old and sleeps between 12.00-6/7.00 am most nights which I'm pretty happy with. The problem is getting her to fall asleep in the first place. She is reluctant to nap in the day, and is incredibly difficult to settle at night.
It takes about 3 hours of bouncing, cluster feeding rocking, bathing, singing etc to soothe her. She normally eventually crashes out at the boob, but it's such a fight to get to that point, and we never manage before midnight. Sometimes she's crying and unsettled, other times she is just alert and unwilling to go to sleep. Should I just go with this or is there anyway I can get her down easier?
She won't take proper naps in the daytime either, which my HV, mother, midwife etc say is because we don't have a routine. At the moment I feed and cuddle her until she goes back to sleep (usually for between 10-40 mins)or until she is content and repeat throughout the day. She doesn't like being put down so I do spend most of my day holding her.
I feel like I'm getting everything wrong. I keep getting told I'm spoiling her, or making a rod, but I can't force her to sleep! Should I be structuring our days better? And what can I possibly do to help her drift off? There is no way I'm leaving her to cry!
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4 week old who won't settle and 'making a rod for my own back'?!
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CAnn88 · 14/02/2014 15:45
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