DCs watching TV while I cooked dinner for the three of us (DH still at work, DCs been at a club all day today so happy for them to be chilling). I gave them warning that dinner would be ready in 10 mins, then 5 mins then called them to come to the table. DS (10) comes, DD (6) says "I'm not coming - I'm watching this programme".
I give her the count of 3 (normally works) but no movement. So I dish her up a very small portion (very small in case I end up throwing it away) and put it on the table and leave it there. DS and I start to enjoy our dinner.
TV programme finishes and DD comes out, has a complete meltdown because of the size of her dinner. I ignore her so she gets out the toaster and makes herself marmite on toast. I still ignore her.
When she's finished I ask her to come upstairs for shower and hair wash and she has a complete meltdown because she wants a bth and no hair wash and screams and screams in the shower, banging the showerhead on the floor of the bath, absolutely raging. I keep my cool pretty well i'm pleased to say, interact as little as possible. By the time she's finished cleaning her teeth and it's story time she's asking me for a cuddle and kiss and looking all apologetic and angelic.
So, did i do the right thing by just ignoring the dinner table thing as 1) I know she's tired, 2) it's not her usual behaviour 3) praise the good, ignore the bad.
Or should I have insisted she either ate what DS and I were eating or gone without?
What do you think?
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mckenzie · 22/08/2011 19:44
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