has anyone actuyally gone ahead and not given presents on xmas day?

[bumbly]

i think i may be doing that as my little oen does not deserve presents at all...neighbouyr gave him present and he said go away!

been rude and obnoxious

and the worst whinger in the world
and on top of that waking up loads in night without being reasonable about going back to sleep

[ditavonteesed]

how old, that would be the most horrible thing you could ever do, child will remember forever and you could never take it back.

[bumbly]

3 1/2 but been an utter nightmare!

[bumbly]

and i really am now not in mood for xmas at all

[ditavonteesed]

I understand how irratating he must be but you cant breK XMAs. A tip I heard somewhere, might have been on here actually was to say for everytime you are naughty santa has taken away a present and replaced it with a brussel sprout, chuck a few sprouts in the stocking and they will wonder what they would have got.

[chrimblycompo]

3.5 too young to cancel Xmas
you'll just make his behaviour worse
praise the good and ignore the bad at that age

I'd cancel Xmas for a teenager who'd shoplifted, joy rided etc not for a three yr old tantrum

[dikkertjedap]

O please don't do that, agree with dita he will remember it the rest of his life it may put such a shadow over the years to come. You sound exhausted, if you haven't already got some presents try to get a few things today it is not too late yet. There will be plenty of other times to discuss behaviour, maybe something to start addressing after X-mas with a reward chart system.

[DreamTeamGirl]

3.5 he is just over tired, over excited and behaving like a 3 year old.

Putting a few sprouts in is a good idea as you can refer back to it during the year too

If you can turn things down a notch for him, then great, and reward every 10 mins or so of being good with some praise.

[SkyBluePearl]

you don't have to give him all the gifts on one day. spread them out on days he is well behaved. we have been doing this and they seem to get more enjyment out of the toys.

have you read the book positive parenting by the way? could help with all the whinging/behaviour.

[floozietoozie]

Hi OP - re the waking in tge night I just wanted to say my ds, who will be four in two weeks, has been waking every nght since he was 3.5. I know it's hard, tiring and annoying but it s a very common developmental stage. He may have started having nightmares - can you find out if that's tge case and try to reassure him? that's what happened with ds combined with changes such as me being pg and potty training. In rhe past two weeks ds has actually had quite a lot of nights where he's slept through so I'm hoping this might be light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck with it.

[dikkertjedap]

It may help to take them to bathroom say at 12.00h (I do that with dd, she will be asleep, I put her on loo, hold her, wipe her, put back in bed still asleep). I found that she had bad dreams and woke up very distressed if I did not do this. My grandma always said that a full bladder can result in young children having nightmares, not sure if it is true or not, but when dd had nightmares a few times in a row, we resorted to this and it has worked so far.