Ok, quick(ish) post as we are at doctors soon...My partner works 45hour week, and Im on mat.leave with 3 year old and 5 week old DDs. Last night I asked him to feed youngest DD ONCE during the evening, and she was v v unsettled, crying and refusing to do a straightforward feed/sleep. So partner took her into our room hoping the darkness would settle her. 5 mins later, she was screaming again, but he was back on his computer (where he seems to be glued ALL the time regardless of toddler DD wanting to play or other stuff needing doing but thats another thread..)
SO, my question is, what do I do? I look after them both 24 hours a day, he does do things with them a bit more at the weekends but he thinks his job ends when he walks through the door,meaning I never get a break or any help.
But I can live with that, the worst part was, last night he said "She will be fucking screaming whether I leave her upstairs or whether its directly into my ear, and I cant think of anything else to do (he only tried feeding her, then gave up after 10mins, no rocking/cuddling/nappy change {angry}
So he was fine with just leaving her to scream indefinitely alone upstairs,aged 5 weeks... {angry} {angry} {sad}
How can I improve this situation? I immediately went and soothed youngest DD obviously, and intend on not even bothering to ask him to interact with her whatsoever anymore {sad} {angry} but now I can literally never have a few hours shopping or seeing friends away from the house, because I cant trust him not to just ignore DDs basic fucking needs..... Im finding it pretty hard to continue loving him when hes showing this ugly and pathetic attitude.
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What to do-Partner left 5 week old baby screaming alone upstairs,refusing to do anything with her
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TwoPeasOnePod · 04/11/2010 15:21
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