I am so so confused I can't think straight. Following my recent post about making the right decision between moving to Brazil or staying in Venice for DH to do his Phd (thanks to all those who contributed), last night DH received a call from the people offering him the job in Brazil. They have upped the salary by 20%, added private medical insurance and given a months salary to do with as we like towards the move (relocation, rental whatever). It now also turns out that there are only 2 grants open to students for the Phd and thus the chances of DH getting one are quite slim to say the least.
If we stay in Venice for the Phd it will be for 2 years only then we have to move abroad to who knows were. We will not be able to survive on my salary alone once DH starts his studies so he will have to find work somehow.
If we leave I will have to quit my lovely job here obviously but there is a very high chance of me getting work in Brazil.
DS has one more year of nursery left before he starts 'formal' education but if we stay here it will be for 2 years so we would have to pull him out once he has started (and we don't really want to). If we go to Brazil he can complete his nursery education and start his formal education. He can already speak Portuguese as DH is Brazilian and only speaks in Portuguese to DS so language is not an issue. DH feels that this is a good opportunity for DS to feel his Brazilian culture first hand which is true.
But, and here's the crunch' I don't want to go but would not even consider splitting up our happy family (which some people have suggested!)
Oh, and we have to give an answer by Friday and DH would have to start work by end August!!
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albert · 22/06/2005 11:27
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