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If you were invited to a birthday party at a cocktail bar.....

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treacletart Mon 23-May-05 18:44:57

...would you expect to have to pay for your drinks?

I'm trying to organise DH's 40th and have booked a lovely cocktail bar for the night. We can only afford to give everyone their first drink but I was hoping not to refer to this or to a paybar on the invites, because I think it looks really tacky . I'm hoping our guests will expect to have to pay and be nicely surprised by a welcome freebie. But I'd also hate for people to expect free drinks all night and be disappointed. What do you think??

moondog Mon 23-May-05 18:48:44

This is so tricky. You're bound to have a misunderstanding one way or another. How about a jokey 'First one is on the birthday boy!' message on the invite? Are you providing nibbles and/or food?

I have to say,that if I was invited to a party and all I got was one drink,I'd be a bit pissed off and would actually be happier with a bit of a do at someone's house,to which of course I'd bring a few bottles.

(Intersted in this,because i'm thinking of something for my dh.)

anchovies Mon 23-May-05 18:51:13

I wouldn't expect the drinks to be paid for (and would love a night out in a lovely cocktail bar!)but agree that "first one's on the birthday boy" would clarify it just in case.

SoupDragon Mon 23-May-05 18:54:40

I wouldn't expect drinks to be free all night but it's best to clarify this on the invitation.

I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where drinks were free all night so I wouldn't expect it of a birthday party (No, I've been to one "free bar" wedding actually, last year).

Whizzz Mon 23-May-05 19:03:46

Agree, I would try & make a joke out of it on the invite so that it was clear to everyone. Or put a 'Cocktail Token' on the invite ??
If it was me, I don't I would expect free drinks all night though (not unless you were millionaires !)

treacletart Mon 23-May-05 19:44:52

cheers girls.

No were far from millionaires! But there will be some nibbles. Were doing it a bar because our house is much too small for a party and we go out so rarely nowadays I thought it might make a nice change - also no problem with noise, getting enough glasses, or clearing up after!

Now, next question... If we do it at the weekend it'll cost £175. If we do it on the Tuesday (his actual birthday) its free and we get a bigger/nicer room - will all our mates hate us for making them drink cocktails on a schoolnight?

Whizzz Mon 23-May-05 19:46:43

Hmmm - Work with hangover is not good. IMO, a Thursday would be better if it has to be a school night.

bakedpotato Mon 23-May-05 19:47:21

if you do it on the tues, would you put the saved cash behind the bar? in which case they'd forgive you.

Hulababy Mon 23-May-05 19:59:11

I wouldn't expect drinks to be free; maybe just the first. I do like the idea of the cocktail token though.

Hulababy Mon 23-May-05 20:00:02

You could have all the tokens collected together when used to "pay" and have some form of lucky draw - if named/numbered - for a nominal prize for a bit of fun.

treacletart Mon 23-May-05 20:05:13

top idea about Thursday night Whizz, but sadly Ive just checked and it would count the same as a weekend as far as bookings are concerned. I'd much rather spend the money on booze!

moondog Mon 23-May-05 21:17:54

Do it on his birthday! I'd welcome the chance of a little fun in the week as would everyone else I'm sure. (And at this stately age,gratuitous piss-ups are done and dusted surely?!)

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