I’m currently a mum for one child and while we will likely try for a second, I’m not 100% sure about it. I recently had a surprise bfp and then a miscarriage. While I thought I was pregnant I had all kinds of worries about having a second one, despite being happy about my bfp (after longish ttc for #1). Since I miscarried I do feel a bit like I have a chance to reconsider.
I have found life with my DS happy but also tiring. I’m strongly an introvert and (would) enjoy quiet time alone doing nothing particular. Good night sleep has been also important to me, and I find it hard not to get that. I also have some plans to retrain myself to a new profession. And all kinds of other reasons why life with one would simply be much easier. Like I don’t drive a car, and getting places with one child is still relatively easy on public transport, but with two?
Nevertheless, I still feel like at the end having a sibling would probably be worth all the trouble and a lovely thing. But what I really wanted to write about is that I have also fears of what if something horrible happens and we lose our only. Of course the other child would never be a “backup”, and I realize now that should I lose my lovely DS, existence of another child would not make it any less horrible. But still. This really is a factor for me when considering #2.
Have others been pondering about this? Or have you managed to get rid of such thoughts as irrational?
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Jmommy · 21/01/2020 17:47
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