Hi all,
I think this will be a what do you do/ am I being a terrible mum/ advice going forward all wrapped in to one.
Basically, I have an 18m DS who has been at nursery since just before he was a year.
He just seems to be unwell so often. In Jan he was off with cold/flu type virus and another headachy virus (hubby and I had them as well). Understandably, no nursery.
February he was sick at nursery so I had to collect him(again, understandable). In Feb he moved in to the toddler room and seems to be setting in well but earlier this month I had to collect him because he developed hives on his legs (no cause was discovered and they went away after about two days).
Monday I had a call saying that he had a fever of 37 and wasn't himself - he was clingy and whingy. I got the impression that they wanted me to collect him but I asked if they could give him calpol. I got a call about 10 minutes later saying he refused calpol so I had to collect him. When I got there I was told he'd been off his food and looked unwell, though his notes say he ate everything they gave him except yogurt. He was fine the rest of the day/evening. Took him again on Tuesday and was called in again because he had a fever and refused calpol.
Again he was fine the rest of the day but did get warm again in the evening.
Was ok overnight and this morning but I was called again because he had a fever and they weren't going to attempt to give him calpol.
He's home now, he's fine with no fever.
I work 2.5 days a week. My company is very generous with holiday but contractually, I have to take a two week block holiday from work (which I've done for later in the year) and I've book 1.5 days to go to a wedding.
I have to take his ill days either as holiday or unpaid. I have 2 days of holiday left until January next year and we literally can not afford to take the days unpaid. Hubby commutes to work so would be useless to collect DS if he was ill (would take more than 2 hours in a best case scenario).
I have no one I can ask to collect him when he's ill. I really don't know what to do.
So, my questions are:
What do/would you do in this situation when facing 9 months of random toddler illness with 2 days of holiday?
Am I being a terrible mum for continuing to take him in? Although he's mainly been fine at home it's clear he has some sort of virus.
Are the nursery being too quick to ask me to collect him? This week he's had on and off fevers but he's been ok within himself.
And does this sound normal or should I seek a doctor's advice? He has no known health issues. He eats a well balanced diet and eats a fair amount as well. He is still breastfeeding so (supposedly) benefiting from my immunity as well.
I'm so stressed out about it. I can't start taking it as unpaid leave
TL;DR- son is always ill (though perks up at home. I'm facing having to take unpaid leave from work.
Thanks!
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JonesMalone · 22/03/2017 13:07
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