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Q&A about puberty and menstruation with Lil-Lets expert Vicki Buffery - ANSWERS BACK
We're running a Q&A this week with Vicki Buffery about discussing puberty and menstruation with your pre-teen and teenagers. Vicki is the online Agony Aunt for Lil-ets and has been answering questions from pre-teen and teenage girls and threir parents teenage girls on Lil-Lets 'Ask Vicki' section of their website. Vicki is on hand this week to answer any questions you may have - from how to explain changes in her body to choosing santitary protection. Send your question before midday on 3 December and we'll link to Vicki's answers on 12 December.
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I don't think toxic shock is a subject that should be covered at school, it would scare them to death. I'm not telling dd till she's older and hoping she will be happy with towels if she starts young. The whole subject scares me because thank God cases are rare, however, because of this I don't think many people are told or warned of the symptoms, I certainly wasn't. I read that most doctors will never experience a case, so it is v. rare. FWIW symptoms include high temperature, which was immediate in my case. Flu like symptoms, vomiting, the runs, etc. I just think it wise for all parents to be aware of this and monitor the use of tampons in the early days. Not much is known about it but some research was done in the 1980's and easily found through google. Please all have a look.
Seems maybe I'll just tell DD that if she feels fluey or has a temp or otherwise feels ill when she is using a tampon to take it out, use a towel instead, and either go to walk in centre/ call NHS Direct/ see her doctor/ go to A & E (depending how bad she feels ?) Does that sound about right ? I do think I might feel slightly different considering your experience and family history potatoprints - So, can see that's a really tricky dilemma you've got there.
But I wouldn't want DD to feel as fed up as I did using rubbish towels for several years before my friend told me about tampons. I think in those days (70's) tampons were only for grown-ups (like my Mum) I don't remember anyone else really explaining them to me - just my friend.
Swimming would be so difficult and I used to dance as well. I longed to be able to use tampons like my friends. I think common sense is the only thing a parent needs to use and maybe just a bit of caution in the first few times of use. I think knowing the facts helps but what you say above seems right. Not too scary which I think older girls could cope with. I'm not sure about 9 yr olds. If dd starts this young I'm afraid towels will be her only option, lol. I must stress though, my circumstances were unusual, in that started at 9, was heavy with lots of pain. Then bloody toxic shock. (No pun).
I always tried to use tampons when I was younger, but just never got the hang of them, finding it difficult and even painful to put them in and when I did eventually get them in, they always popped out as soon as I started to move around leading to potentially embarrassing situations! What advice (apart from the usual try to relax and don't tense up) would you give to mums on teaching their DD's how to insert a tampon and how to position them correctly? I would like her to have the freedom I never had.
How can we, as mums, get them to appreciate the importance of personal hygiene;showering, frequent pad changes etc, ideally without nagging! Especially for the still-at-junior school starters who don't seem to have the vanity to care. (is it just mine?!)