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2 year old twins becoming difficult!

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redrhubarb Thu 18-Oct-18 21:20:04

Up until now life with my dtwins had been surprisingly enjoyable. They cooperated with me (most of the time)and were generally well behaved. Now they are 2 1/2 and extremely challenging!

They moan about anything and everything. Today we've had tantrums over:
Getting out of bed
Not having milk on cereal
Having milk on cereal
Having a spotty nappy on instead of striped
Not being able to wear shorts
Having to wear a hat
Having to get In the pushchair
Having to stay in the pushchair
Not wanting to walk
Not getting biscuits from the shop
Having orange juice when wanting black currant
Having to eat dinner
Getting out the bath
Putting wrong pjs on
The list goes on but writing it's just annoying me even more!

Having this all day from both babies is so mentally exhausting.

I was hoping things would be getting easier now but it's so much harder.

Can any twin mums please reassure me this is a short phase that will pass !

RubySlippers77 Wed 31-Oct-18 08:37:18

Today we are meeting a friend who has a DS the same age as my two; she didn't want to meet till about 10.30, I'm thinking we may be at the venue very early as my DC are already
tearing chunks out of each other 😩

m0therofdragons Wed 31-Oct-18 08:44:34

I suddenly commented to Dh that I was finding the twins easier and Dh burst out laughing "is that because they're at school for a chunk of the day?" Yep 
2-3 was the worst. Absolutely exhausting and regularly feeling like a shit mum. My poor older dd had to behave as I didn't have any time for her with my all consuming 3yos. Now they're 7 they are easier but have their moments.

mammmamia Wed 31-Oct-18 12:37:31

coffee mine are 8 and are currently being kept amused by two Halloween balloons (orange and black) grin

coffeeneeded Wed 31-Oct-18 13:21:25

Glad to hear balloon joy doesn't go away. To be fair I was entertained as well!

No trick or treating here.... can't face it. Maybe next year. 😂

I finally got my boy scooting today- so that was both of them scooting in the park. I didn't have to carry anything. WIN!

When you lot say "take them out for a walk" how do you do it? I can't seem to get mine moving unless it's for a purpose.... which normally involves the shop!

RubySlippers77 Wed 31-Oct-18 14:26:45

m0ther glad to hear it's not just mine that demand ALL the attention!! They are definitely little threenagers!

I think mine are so used to me bellowing "We are going out RIGHT NOW" when I get fed up that they don't argue about the walks, coffee! Although there is still a fair amount of grumbling and bribery is required on occasion, the local shop is almost out of Kinder Surprise eggs blush

Took DC out with my friend and her DS (same age) earlier. Had a nice walk through the woods, across fields etc with only a minimal amount of whinging from whingey DTS1. Stopped at the cafe, her DS stood patiently, chose his drink and snack, etc. Mine? All over each other, rolling round the floor, shrieking and biting. In the end I apologised to my friend and took them back to the car. They sobbed as they wanted to spend more time with my friend's DS but maybe next time it will give them pause for thought next time they start to play up. although I doubt it

coffeeneeded Wed 31-Oct-18 14:39:38

I had a similar morning @RubySlippers77 dtd has spent all morning doing her "poo dance" where she says she needs a poo, we find the loo, and then she just sits and demands attention while she does nothing. She can sit there for 20 mins if I let her! 4 times we've done this- no poo yet.

Dts went for a wee in the loo at the cafe and then he promptly wet himself when we were back at our table- I had forgotten to pack his trousers so he spent the rest of the morning wearing his sisters leggings... he didn't much like that.

Thankfully they have napped. Reset and continue. 💤💤🤷‍♀️

Sharpcattlegridheavyhat Wed 31-Oct-18 15:05:46

But....but..... walking? cafes?????? I mean with twins???? No. No no.

mammmamia Wed 31-Oct-18 15:36:45

ruby and coffee that all sounds so familiar grin

Mine are on half term and I’m off work.
I think you just get really good at multi tasking.
We made a Halloween cake for DH as it’s is bday today, while cleaning up I helped DS with French homework and DD made some paper chains. I’ve also managed to cook dinner. They both talked at the tops of their voices at the same time as usual. They’ve also had a few fights but on the whole played nicely together.
It does get easier (not sure it’s any less messy though, house is a tip)

mammmamia Wed 31-Oct-18 15:37:31

I’m exhausted though, can’t face icing the cake!

RubySlippers77 Thu 01-Nov-18 09:19:01

Did you find the energy to ice your cake mammmamia?! Hats off to you though, I wouldn't even be bothered to make one!!

Sharp, the walk with twins was (almost) fine, but cafe + sitting down + behaving = no! We're supposed to be meeting a friend today and her older DS, but he's 9 now and likes his sleep, they are probably having a lie in sad

DTS1 was up at 5.50am - no reason, he was absolutely exhausted, but did his usual incredibly annoying trick of refusing to go back to sleep. This means he will be even whingier than usual and he's already an extremely whingy child. I'm cross and tired, he's overtired and whiny, DTS2 is full of beans as he slept longer than both of us. I have wine in the fridge for later, it will be needed.....

RubySlippers77 Thu 01-Nov-18 09:21:47

Aaargghhh, my friend has just bailed due to the rain, leaving me with two wriggly children to entertain on my own all day!!

Sharpcattlegridheavyhat Thu 01-Nov-18 09:39:45

Today has just been rescued, grandparents are taking DS so it’s me and the twins all day. They’ve spent the morning fighting so it’ll be good to have one less. No idea what to do with them in this weather though. Endless crafts...

RubySlippers77 Thu 01-Nov-18 20:37:19

What did you find to do to get through today Sharp? Three little ones must be incredibly hard to cope with!

Things today that have been Not Fun:

1. Having to take two toddlers out in the pissing rain simply because they get so bored and squabbly indoors.
2. Then having said toddlers screech and bite at each other in various shops and me having to be Stern Mummy.
3. Doing another endless few hours at home after returning from shopping, till again the squabbling got too much for me and we had to go out.
4. Squabbling! Neverending bloody squabbling!!

Things today that have been Fun:

1. Children asleep in bed.
2. wine

Any more contributions?!

OrdinaryGirl Thu 01-Nov-18 21:04:30

I haven't RTFT but am slinking into this sacred space thread exhausted and frazzled and place-marking to read properly later.

Twin mum here 👋🏼 DS1 is just 5, and DTSs are 2y 7m.

I do feel your pain OP. The sheer relentless hard graft of life with toddler twins feels like having your wrist tied to a pick-up truck that is driving 3 mph faster than you can run. And you have the straight choice: learn to run faster or be dragged. And I'm so tired of running. 😞 And I'm not even a SAHM! Heaven knows how SAHPs do it.

It got a lot easier with DS1 when he got to 4, so I am hoping that will be the case with the other two jokers.

Hope tomorrow is a little easier for you OP, and for everybody on here that's feeling embattled. An absolute legend of a twin mum I know used to remind me 'Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming.' and I sing that a lot under my breath.

Sharpcattlegridheavyhat Thu 01-Nov-18 21:25:31

That was intense to read, ordinary! Mostly because that description is spot on. My ds is going to be 4 soon and I can see a difference already, he even helps with the twins a little bit, and he adores them. But yes ruby the squabbling! It was really bad for me too today. Wasn’t going to have wine but had a glass.... to be honest we didn’t do much! Play doh, painting in those magic colouring books, playmobil and sylvanians (bit young for them being 2 but they like them more than more babyish toys.) really not much else!

RubySlippers77 Fri 02-Nov-18 18:04:23

Ordinary I'm very tired of running too! The word which crops up most when reading about the twin toddler years is relentless and that's exactly how I'd describe it. Might be different if you have amazingly supportive partner and/ or family, but sadly I don't.

Having said that, My DTs went to MIL & FIL for the afternoon today as I had to go to a meeting about DTS1's speech therapy and couldn't take them. The meeting itself was fine - apart from a few questions which I was supposed to answer intelligently, and nowadays I'm not knowledgeable about anything except the members of Paw Patrol - and happily it finished a bit early, so I went for coffee and cake in peace - it was AMAZING grin

It also meant I had a few hours of no-one shouting "Where ARE you Mummy?", "Come and watch me on the potty" or general background squabbling noises. I left them with the grandparents and pretty much skipped out of the door in anticipation of my treat!

OrdinaryGirl Fri 02-Nov-18 22:49:16

Yay Ruby! Delighted to see you got a lovely slice of cake peace and quiet! Do hope was restorative.

At the risk of angering the gods of sleep, all is quiet here. I reckon I can get a whopping 5.5 hours sleep in before DTS1 wakes for the day with his horrible hacking cough wailing 'Mummy cuddle! Daddy cuddle. Muuuummeeeeee cuuuudddddle!'



OrdinaryGirl Fri 02-Nov-18 22:50:14

Redrhubarb how're you bearing up?

RubySlippers77 Sat 03-Nov-18 11:04:55

Did you get some sleep Ordinary?

I'm paying for my easy afternoon yesterday... today it feels like a marathon just to leave the house 🤦‍♀️

redrhubarb Sat 03-Nov-18 12:40:07

Ordinarygirl we've had a good few days where the twins have been behaving. This morning though, they decided to fight again and they refused to go out in the pushchair.

Oh well at least they gave me a break for a few days.

namechange9681 Sat 03-Nov-18 13:04:03

@redrhubarb OH GOD! Sounds like my 2 year old ! Some days she's moans ALL day and then even in bed for 10 mins before she falls asleep 😂

RubySlippers77 Sun 04-Nov-18 10:01:32

Ah I feel for you red, mine went through a buggy hating phase too, although they are currently appreciating its warmth! Could you try a twin trike, mine love theirs? Or get a cheapo single buggy, pop one in and encourage the other one to race you?! Mine will do that, admittedly for short periods, but gets you out of the house smile

DP being an absolute arse this morning. Hard as it is to manage two toddlers, it's even harder when he's acting like an overgrown, sulky toddler himself...

RubySlippers77 Tue 06-Nov-18 10:34:37

How is everyone's week going? My DTs are back at preschool and I am revelling in the simple joy of being able to make a phone call without being interrupted every five seconds grin

coffeeneeded Tue 06-Nov-18 14:41:55


I'm not very well- DH is also unwell (worse of course) and my DT's are being extremely hard going. We've had biting, hitting, throwing and, worst of all, no nap today.

I need gin

RubySlippers77 Tue 06-Nov-18 15:07:34

Sending gin coffee! I've definitely been there...!

There's just no let up with mine at the moment; even when I think ah, they're tired out and will watch TV and chill for a bit, they'll STILL find the energy to squabble...

Is there anyone who can take your DC for a bit to give you some recovery time? And boo to your DH having to be more ill than you - mine does it with illness, tiredness etc!

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