Last week (9 weeks pregnant)after some light bleeding I was sent for an early scan. I was told that there was no heartbeat and the pregnancy had terminated at 6 weeks. I am due to go back for another scan tomorrow to see if the "products of conception" have passed by themselves (they haven't) I will then need an operation to remove them under general anesthetic. After trying for this much wanted baby for the best part of a year I am devastated.
My boss (who is not usually very good with this sort of thing) has been fantastic, telling me to take off as much time as I need. But some of the people who I expected (and needed) to get support from have really upset me with their insensitive comments or actions.
When I told my Dad about my loss he asked me why it had happened and said "Did the doctor say there was anything wrong with your plumbing?" he then went on to tell me it could have happened because I'm overweight. He hasn't even bothered to ring me to see how I am since I told him.
2 of my close friends have told me that it wasn't even a baby at 6 weeks and it was just a ball of cells so I should just forget about it and try for another. (to me I was 9 weeks pregnant, almost 1/4 of the way through the pregnancy and the baby was a much longed for brother or sister to ds).
Another of my friends who knows about my situation has moaned to me about how fed up of being pregnant she is and although dh thinks he is being supportive he was out all day Sunday rehersing with his stupid band and he's been out playing football with his mates since 7pm. He will return for a shower anytime now then head back out to meet them in the pub! He knows how worried I am about returning to the hospital tomorrow but it hasn't crossed his mind to stay home with me. He also told me that he can't get Thursday off work because he's got a really busy day then so if the op is then can I take someone else with me to the hospital????? I lost the plot at this one and screamed blue murder until he agreed to see what he can sort out. I'm so annoyed with him that I don't really want him there anyway if he's going to be so unsupportive but I've nobody else to take me.
To make matters worse my Mum is on holiday at the moment and I haven't told her because I don't want to ruin her holls. My mil is also away but gets back tomorrow, I'm dreading her return because she doesn't know yet either and if the comments from other people have upset me I'm sure they will pail into insignificance when she opens her mouth because she is an evil witch who gets her kicks from making other people unhappy.
Sorry for such a long post I just needed to vent and I'm feeling very sorry for myself as I'm sure you can tell.
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Missed Miscarriage - Why are some people so bloody insensitive?????
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chubbymummy · 14/10/2008 21:28
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