I think I'm having a miscarriage

[LittleFryingPan]

Didn't even know I could be pregnant.

What the actual fuck do I do now?!

[jimijack]

Have you tested?

[LittleFryingPan]

Just tested now (only just finished work)

It's a positive. Now what?

[roselondoner]

Are you bleeding heavily? How many weeks pregnant do you think you could be? I'm sorry this must be really horrible for you.

[LittleFryingPan]

Heavily enough to be changing every hour and a half/2 hours and really really big clots.

I've been really irregular since my periods started in January after finishing breastfeeding so I have absolutely no idea how far I could be.

I think I'm in shock. Have no idea what I'm meant to do

[roselondoner]

Okay, well if it gets heavier than you are now or you feel dizzy I would go get yourself checked out. When I went through similar they said more than one pad per hour is too heavy I think.

I hope you're feeling okay? Make yourself comfortable and drink lots of fluid. I'm so sorry for you must be such a shock xx

[LittleFryingPan]

Thank you roselondoner is it really just a wait for it to pass?

I feel like I should be doing something if you know what I mean?

Really tearful and in pain. This is horrible

[MissEDashwood]

I'm so sorry. Proper protocol would be to either self present at a Gynaecology A&E / Call 111 / self refer to EPAU / get your GP to refer if you can't self refer.

That is pretty heavy bleeding I would be inclined to call 111 and see how they assess things. But I get you don't really want to be separated from DC.

Please just give them a call for advice at least. Then make sure you get in with an EPAU.

Best of wishes x

[LittleFryingPan]

Been told to just stay at home (thank god) for now and to see GP tomorrow.

Think I'm going to have a really hot bath to see if it eases some of the pain.

Thank you for your kind words

[roselondoner]

I know what you mean, it's hard to sort of sit around and it feels like some structure should be followed, but self care is the best way forward, especially now they've told you you're ok to sit tight. Let us know if you need more company ❤️

[tiredandfrustrated]

I'm so sorry. I've had one myself. When the bleeding slows down, try testing again. It should show negative pretty quickly.

Just take care of yourself. It will be painful and horrible and you'll feel terrible so do whatever you need to be a little more comfortable.

[LittleFryingPan]

I honestly can't say how much you being so kind means to me. Thank you

I've had my bath and it did fuck all do DH has been giving me a back rub and is going to hook me up to my tens machine.

For not even knowing I was pregnant, I feel really fucking lost. I'm mourning something I wasn't aware of. And then I check in on DD and see what could have been with this. We don't even want another, can't afford it at all but it's got me thinking so much.

And it really hurts. Desperate to talk to someone but don't know what to say.

[Backhometothenorth]

Sorry this is happening to you OP
Hope you're doing ok

[LittleFryingPan]

I'm trying.

Went into work like an absolute knob this morning. Left now for the doctors but don't know whether to go back or not after.

On one hand it'll keep me busy. On the other I can barely move without crying because of pain.

[LittleFryingPan]

Please can I have a hand hold?

Can't be seen at the hospital until tomorrow and I'm back at home by myself.

I can't stop crying. She thinks I'm about 8 weeks.

[roselondoner]

Hand holding here as long as you need me. Remember to breathe and to focus on the fact this will all be over soon. I'm here

[GlitteryFluff]

Oh little I'm so sorry
Handholding

[LittleFryingPan]

Poor DH is ringing me every chance he gets.

He has organised for DD to have a sleepover at my parents tonight so we can have some time and won't have her with us in the morning.

Don't even know how he's being so practical

[LittleFryingPan]

Thank you

[speakfriendandenter]

Thinking of you and sending lots of hugs x

[roselondoner]

Your DH sounds lovely and exactly what you need right now, a night just to feel however you need to. How's it all going there? Have you been seen?

[roselondoner]

Oh crap sorry ignore that I misread what you said. You're at home, is there anything you like to do to relax?

[Backhometothenorth]

Thinking of you OP

I was given a doctors note for two weeks off work after miscarriage- take the time to recover a little- this is a terrible shock for you and you need to give yourself lots of TLC

[LittleFryingPan]

Had my bath, dosed up on painkillers and watching David Attenborough. Can't focus at all and desperate to DO something.

Poor mum came round for DDs overnight things and found me sobbing in my trackies on the sofa. Nothing like a hug from your mum though, even when you're one yourself.

Thanks for the hand holds everyone

[tiredandfrustrated]

Hand holding here for you. Big hugs, it is so painful in every way. Here for you.

[LittleFryingPan]

This is exactly why I hate hospitals. The waiting kills you.

Luckily got The Worlds Best DH here holding my hand and just generally being amazing.