A question for those of you who have been through divorce.

[Pinkchampagne]

How long did the divorce take once you had your affidavit sworn & sent off?

Had mine sworn today & have just handed it into the solicitors, but forgot to ask how long it should roughly take from this point.

[Pinkchampagne]

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[Pinkchampagne]

Anyone have any idea?

[lizziemun]

Not me, but but my parents. I think it was only about 6wks. But it was uncontested. They were legally separted for 5 yrs before dad could ask for a divorce.

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

Hi PC!
how are you?
i think it was a matter of weeks for my nisi
and then another 6 months for the absolut but only because of messing on his part and the sheer backlog at the courts
are your relatives still seeing him as golden boy btw?

[Pinkchampagne]

Ohh, hopefully won't be long then! Hoping he won't mess around as he has filled out all forms pretty pronto so far. I am paying for the divorce as it is me that wants it done, but if he messes me around, then he will pay any extras, so it's not in his best interest to make it hard work!

My family do still see him as golden boy. They are all off to London on Friday because he bought my dad concert tickets for Christmas, so they are going together & Mum is going along for the trip too!

[PurpleOne]

Uncontested - 6 weeks for absolute.

Then throw an almighty party

[Pinkchampagne]

Oh there will be champagne popping when I get that absolute, that's for sure!

[Blu]

[Leslaki]

6 weeks would be lovely!!!! The chanpagne corks will certainlky be popping for me - can't wait to get shot - esp after all his ridiculouss behaviour!!! I wanna be free!!! Good luck PC! BTW got 2 bottles that have been chilling for 9 mnths....

[Pinkchampagne]

Thank you. Good luck to you too - lets hope our divorces come through quickly now & we can soon get that champagne out!

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

well i will keep my fingers crossed
keep us all posted
and hope things run extra smoothly

[PurpleOne]

I've now been divorced for 8 1/2 years.

It was the best thing I ever did.

Will we be in for an MN LP cyber party that night?

*hangs out bunting

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

lol at Purple
and yes it's a fab feeling isn't it
it's so good its hard to define
but you'll be having that feel good feeling soon too
and then you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner!

[Tillyscoutsmum]

I think it was about 8 weeks from the affadavit until the nisi, then 6 weeks after that until the absolute.

[Pinkchampagne]

Seems it could be a lot quicker than I thought then, which is good. I was thinking it may take around 6 months yet!

There will certainly be a MN party when I get my absolute so watch out for it!

[memoo]

Ex DH didn't contest and it took about 3 months

[HOLLY23]

i did my affidavit about the 20th Jan, and not heard anything regarding the nisi yet, but really hope its any day now! can't wait to be divorced from the prat I was shackled to for 15 yrs!

[Pinkchampagne]

Realised half way through this afternoon that today would have been my 10th wedding anniversary. Clearly not feeling too sentimental as I nearly forgot about it!

[Leslaki]

I will certainly be hosting a cyber party when my absolut comes thru - but you'll have to play 'guess wot she's saying' as I will be so delirious with happiness and champagne I won't be able to type properly!! (and i'm bad enough sober!) Leslaki raises a large slice of gooey carrot cake to you all!!

[Pinkchampagne]

Lol! Don't blame you, Leslaki - I may well be in a similar state!

A friend was looking at my affidavit before I took it in, and she said "ahh, it's sad isn't it?"
I then thought I must be totally heartless as I don't feel any upset at all - I just want it done now.

[Leslaki]

Know what you mean PC - I am totally indifferent towards him now - no feelings at all. I hate his behaviour and what he is doing to my dcs but I genuinely do not give a toss about him! I think he finds that very hard to deal with and keeps going on about 'my hatred towards him and NW'. I think he feels he has no control over anything now and thta's why he is being so difficult cos he thinks it's him being a big man and getting control. He doesn't realise that all and sundry are just shaking their heads and thinking 'Prat'! Anyway - each day is another day closer to that DA and freedom!

[HOLLY23]

I'm so upset and angry. My solicitor called me today, 1) Decree Nisi date is not until the 22nd April, which means the absolute won't come through until early June. I was praying hoping the divorce would be completed by April! and also the stupid, worthless twat of a pig I'm married to hasn't signed and returned the consent order to my solicitor. Maintenance payments form part of the consent order and do not commence until its sealed by the court which can't take place until after 22nd April, I left him last July and he hasn't given me a penny towards the children, and I was so fair with what I asked for! nothing for myself and only at least 60-70% of what the CSA would demand. I hate him and can't wait for the divorce to come thru.

[Pinkchampagne]

So sorry your ex is messing you around & that your divorce won't come through as quick as you had hoped.

[HOLLY23]

Thanks Pink, it is upsetting but not a lot I can do about it. I feel like I'm divorced from him already IYKWIM, so just want it to be official now

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

Holly
thats really bad news
my exh dragged his feet and was aided by the most cynical solicitor ever who tried everything in the book to delay the process
i spent hours crying over it all
it was so horribly frustrating
still,you are rebuilding your life there as i know from other thread
he can't take that away from you