I have been single now for well over 2 years. In alot of ways, I am doing so much better now than I was back then and am generally a stronger person.
However, the one thing, that can still reduce me to tears is the fact that I am alone and likely to be for the forseeable future.
To me this marks me out as a failure, although I don't really know why I think this.
If anything this fear and loathing at being alone has gotten worse since the split and definatly no better. Without wanting to sound big headed, at the time of the split it never even entered my head that i'd still be single now. If you'd of asked me how long i thought i'd be single for i'd have said 6mths-1 year.
It is getting to the point where even talking to someone about their happy relation ship brings a lump to my throat and I find myself avoiding talking to them. I am happy for them, but it hurts so much to hear about how happy they are, and makes me wonder what is so wrong with me that I can't have some of that happiness.
I am constantly being told that I will meet someone when the time is right etc etc, and I know people only mean well, but the reality is, that they don't know this, and there is every chance that I won't ever meet anyone.
Three female relatives of mine in their 40's and 50's are single and have been for years and years, so that could easily be me.
So, is there anything I can do at all, to change my thinking on this ?? I am sick of feeling so down about not having the future I really want, that it is wrecking the life I do have now.
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IllegallyBrunette · 14/10/2008 12:57
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